My mother in the past 2 years has fallen about 6 times. She has broken her upper arm, scrapes the have required home health and even hospitalization. When she broke her arm, she still wanted to drive. I would take her to dialysis for about 8 months after, but she begged me to let her drive because that was her freedom and helped her feel her Independence.
Recently she fell and required 8 staples on one elbow and her other elbow had her paper-thin skin peeled back. Her doctor told me she cannot be by herself.
This is very hard for me because I don't have the support of my only other brother. Literally I'm by myself because she also has driven a lot of her friends off since I am her only family member.
OK enough of that, now let me get to the meat of it. She gets mad and starts to be rude and begins to hurt my feelings. When I am home and here a noise out of the ordinary I go and ask her if she is okay, she tells me in a bothered voice, "yes stop being so over protective". She tells me "I was fine yesterday when you left me alone". When I help her get in bed I comment that her feel are very swollen and she tells me "stop telling me anything all you do is scare me". She gets upset that I have someone and can't spend all my time with her so she is rude to my significant other. I am 45 years old and have never really had a life of my own because her health has gone down and know she can't support herself. I get really frustrated because she continues to mistreat me when I am all she's got.
Whats weird is that when she is at the hospital she is fine and in good spirits when she is home she is agitated and angry all the time especially because I am not there 24/7 and from what I see she gives me the guilt trip by being sarcastic.