A few months ago I my mom started pooping in her pants; I have no problem cleaning her up. But she often cries when I clean her up. When I ask her why she's crying, she says that I just want to see her naked. (For the record, that could not be FURTHER from the truth.) It's gotten so I dread having to clean her up. She acts like I'm molesting her.
Also, my mom, who has hardly ever before said one word to me concerning anything sexual (except 'Yuck, that's disgusting!' when people would kiss on TV) is suddenly talking to someone in her room telling them she does not want sex, and is extremely ticked off that they would even want to (there is, of course, no one in there.) She is hard of hearing and lately everything I say to her gets interpreted as having something to do with sex and gets her all upset. What the heck is going on?
I'm finding it very hard to be around my mom at all, lately, but I'm her caregiver. Is it okay for me to not be around her when she's ranting and raving, or do I have an obligation to go in there and bear the brunt of it? I lately have been just keeping her clean and fed, and just peep into her room every few minutes during the day to make sure she's okay. She can see me working in the yard through the French doors in her bedroom, and when I'm in the house her bedroom door is open. She is so hateful to me though (which is really not that different from the pre-dementia relationship we had) that I just don't want to be in her presence anymore than necessary. It makes my head, stomach, and heart hurt. Even when I get respite care for her, I spend a lot of the time dreading when it's over. I really don't know what to do anymore.