Dad passed away Dec 30 last year of melanoma. My Mom hasn’t been bathing regularly or cleaning up after herself or her dog. She is incapable of paying her bills.My Mom has a mortgage and many bills so she can’t afford to live in her house. We are thinking of moving her to a small 1 bedroom apartment. She is 2 months behind on house payments and can’t afford to pay property taxes. His life insurance is being contested so she only has her fixed income. My brother and I both live out of state . Just when I think she is doing ok I find out that she’s been lying to me about her incontinance and keeping up with the house. We are terrified she will ruin the carpet in the apartment and get evicted. What should we do?