Have had to back off from seeing Mom so often. She calls constantly. Any suggestions to stop the calling?

I guess I'd ask the AL staff to make sure she's heavily involved with any programs they have. I don't think you can do much to make her stop though. I learned fairly early on in life that the only behavior I can change is my own.

Your "not answering" is probably the best thing you can do.

I was the recipient of daily phone calls from my mother (in a NH with parkinsons, dementia and numerous strokes). Every call was nasty, screaming abuse and trying to pick a fight. On the edge of a nervous breakdown - shaking, hair falling out and eventually, after many months, having a black out driving my truck at 85 - I changed my phone number, made it unlisted and told her as I didn't use it I got rid of it. She doesn't have my address either, just the name of a nearby village as, if I hadn't answered the phone she would have called the cops on me - did that 20 years ago when she wasn't demented, just a narcissist control freak.

I was quite ill for months.. Drastic action but I had no choice. It was her or me and had I not taken action I doubt I would be alive today. Even now I rarely feel 100% well. Stress does terrible things to you.

P.S. I still visit a couple of times a week, run her errands and ensure she has all she needs. Since I changed my phone number she's had 3 more strokes which seem to have knocked he stuffing out her and she's quite passive but no way will I ever give her my phone number or address.