Mom (93) is very abusive and I had to baker act her. She filed a DVPO against me. What can I do? - AgingCare.com

Mom (93) is very abusive and I had to baker act her. She filed a DVPO against me. What can I do?

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I am her and my 67 yr old disabled brothers caregiver. She got released she called a lawyer and filed a dvpo against me. I was removed from the home. Not allowed back in home till court date in two weeks. Unless I hire a lawyer there don't seem to be anything I can do. She controls all money. What can I do, who can I talk too?

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That's why I asked the question .. what happened? :)
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We're aware that this situation is a year old, right?
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Have you spoken with the police? A geriatric nurse told me if you want something done go to the police. That had been my experience as well. They will advise if they can't act.
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Cooter, so sorry - you gave it your best shot and, the other way you will get a call from someone is if something happens to HER. Glad for you being outta there but sad for brother... and genuinely do not understand why the videos were inadmissible. You can't go back if the law says you can't anyways...if you have any round about evidence that something is going bad, either a neighbor or someone in a health care office who sees him, then you can try another APS report. Hugs and prayers...
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A broken system.
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Oh my, what happened?
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I am no longer allowed at the house, If I go, just to see my brother, she will have me arrested on trespassing charges. I had cameras in the house, did the recordings for proof of neglect, but was NOT allowed to use them in court. Judge said they were here say. Where it stands now, the Only way I'll get to see my brother is if I get a call from the sheriffs that something happened to him. I told you her cruelty was bad. It's what it is and I'm not going back there ever again. Like I said, Adult Services and the sheriffs stated, unless something terrible happens, They will Not get involved. Don't you just love the way the system works?
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In your shoes I would work on getting your brother out, to a group living situation. It's one of your mom's many lies and distortions that he'd be worse off someplace else.
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BTW, ask the security experts at the store for the current recording laws in your state.

Since you are no longer a resident, there may be restrictions. Many jurisdictions, there is no law against video, only audio.

Be careful to follow the law in your area. If you don't, the material you gather could not only be unusable, it could also get you in trouble.
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Ok, the cats are out. You are out.

But now that the restraining order has been quashed, You certainly have removed your furniture, right?

And you can visit your brother?

After your stuff is out, go to a security store and get a wide angle, motion activated nanny cam.

You'll need to find an unobtrusive place to afix it where it won't be noticed or bothered.

Retrieve it and download it into your computer.

All you need is one of your mother's inappropriate incidents to prove your contention.
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