My husband died of cancer after 18 months. I hired full time help when my husband was ill and remodeled a bedroom and bathroom to accommodate his needs. His family did not assist at all and rarely visited. His siblings and parents think because I have the remodeled room and could afford help for my husband that I should provide this service for them. I have said no, but they are refusing to take this as a final answer. Am I wrong to not want to provide caregiving for two ninety year olds with dementia?