Has anyone else's marriage broken because of caregiving?
No matter what I do for him, it gets rejected by father in law. Kind and nice and charming to everyone else, yet I do not exist at all when nobody else is around. No matter what I do, he ignores/rejects/devalues everything. I have tried and tried and tried, but he has decided he doesn't like me, I am to blame for him having to leave his home, and so therefore I am to be treated like the maid.
My husband supported me for about a week, but slowly and surely, has been won over by dad again. Now, I am the bad one, and everything is all my fault.On Friday we had an episode that happened in front of my husband and he sat and just watched it and told me to just let it go... but for me it was the straw that broke the camels back. I have stopped engaging, stopped trying, stopped talking to FIL beyond the basic requirements.
Now I have been given an ultimatum: fix myself or get out. The old man is besides himself with glee, he finally has got it right. I am completely broken by this whole horrible experience. Oh and on top of this, the entire family (none of whom would actually take him into their homes) think that I am unbelievable and awful and the B&*^% from hell.
Has anyone else's marriage fallen apart because of abusive in-laws? Any advice for me?
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Just some advice. If you feel you can't move forward, don't abandon ship. Have a plan. Once you've left, I doubt you'll be welcome back or you'd want to go back. A pack of wolves sounds better than these people.
See a lawyer.