My partner has a VA psychiatrist and a psychological counselor. He did domestic violence Friday, Feb 20. I would like to inform his shrink and his counselor, but not at the risk of some mandatory reporting rule. Does anyone know what the VA might report or do?
His shrink is at a VA hospital. His counselor is with a local counseling firm, which the VA paid for a while; it may now be paid by Medicare.
A quick Google says my state, Washington state, does not have any mandatory reporting laws; dunno about county, but I can find that out.
Okay, that's the facts. Please no one be upset. No damage, and I moved out that day. We have been together 50 years, so I'm sure we will weather this. I'm focused on immediate practical things: getting his psych people involved, will he get to appointments safely with me unwilling to drive him, etc.
Now, also, am I right to describe this incident as violence? I was inside his motorhome, cooking; he was outside. Through the window I snapped at him. A few minutes later he came in, grabbed my arms, shouted "Don't say anything!", walked/pushed me away from the exit and back to the bedroom. I struggled and got loose, got my purse and my computer, and walked out.
I was scared because on a previous incident years ago, he had picked me up, shaken me, delivered some blows, and threw me down on the bed. And a few minutes later had come back and done it again. Also during that period, he would come in while I was in bed, pull me out, give blows that left black eyes and bruises.
I think his version of Friday will be that it was not violence, either it didn't happen at all, or it was 'gentle restraint' that I'm exaggerating.
My own trailer has been parked about 100' feet from his; I had drifted into spending full time in his, helping with his medical problems. It has been very satisfying moving back into my own trailer, getting utilities etc going again, clean out junk, etc. I do see what they mean about "Take care of yourself". Very good dinner, warm bed, etc. It's when I go out in the cold before a meal, that I start wishing to go back up to his motorhome and pretend nothing had happened.
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Cttoi, H's behavior last week was like when he got the wrong kind of Bupropion (God bless Carol for explaining about that!). He said he'd taken his meds, and later I checked and the right kind were in the following days' compartments, so that was probably ok. The violence was Friday after a Sleep Study Wed night-Thurs morning. At breakfast at the hospital he had seemed the same way: arbitrary, resentful, uncommunicative (that day too he said he had taken his meds).
I wonder if Sleep Studies sometimes have a weird effect? Their preliminary reading said no sleep apnea.
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