My siblings and I had a frustrating, frightening two to three years with our parents, both of whom we lost in the last two years. We had no training in dementia or dementia care; we had no idea what was happening to my dad as he became forgetful, difficult and demanding (I WILL drive if I want to! Those people at DMV just have it in for old people, and LIED about my vision!), and then began with the hallucinations. Mom had memory problems, but always remained sweet. Dad demanded to live alone at his home (with my brother and I visiting three times a day for his care) after Mom went into a nursing home and then died. When things got really bad (wandering the streets in the middle of the night or calling the police looking for my (deceased) mother, thinking he was in a hotel, wanting to go "home," we got him into memory care by sedating him and lying to him. My issue is that I really dread treating my own children like that, and intend to write them a "handbook" on what to look for should I go this route, and a letter allowing them and encouraging them to find a nice memory care facility for me if that time comes. As you suffer (many of you) with parents' dementia, etc., are you thinking about how to help your children if it happens to you? Any suggestions for all of us?