My husband and I are retired and have temporarily left our home over-seas to aid my elderly parents. My mother has Alzheimer's and my father is living with her and needs lots of help. I gladly gave up everything to go to my husband's country to be with his dying mother, but he complains non stop about being her with me, while I help my parents. He has even given me an ultimatum - him or my parents. We have been married for 37 years and have had a mostly wonderful marriage. Does anyone have any advice on how to make my husband understand the joy I receive in being with my parents and being able to be there for them?