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My mother (90) has dementia, macular degeneration, and had colon cancer so has colostomy which we irrigate daily. My question, she has been with me 4 years, now wants to get her a house. She thinks she can take care of herself, said she is tired of sitting around, but I try to get her to do things and she is not interested. But says she is bored. How is best to handle this so she realizes this is not an option. She does nothing for herself. Now should I just tell her I will let her take care of everything for herself and see if she can and if she can let her get a house? (which will never happen) I'm just so tired of hearing the same thing all the time she expects me to sit right with her all the time.  I can’t do that. I am 73 myself my husband is on in home dialysis so that takes some of my time. I feel like I have no time for me without having to tell her everyday she can’t live alone. If I show her maybe it will help (input)

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You really can't reason with a person who has dementia or get them to understand. The part of the brain that processes is often not working, so, they are just not capable of realizing that her belief about how she can live independently is magical thinking. My LO was the same way. My LO's doctor told her that she had to have AL. It wasn't up for discussion. I explained that she needed it for rehab, getting her medication adjusted, nutrition on track, etc. She went along with it.

I'd figure out what care she needs and make the arrangements. Do you have POA?
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Exactly the advice I would have given! Geaton, you handled your mom perfectly...
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