What would you do in my shoes? I have a Hateful, Dementia 88 yr old Aunt that knowone likes and what nothing to do with her. My Aunt was always the wealthy/Rich type with her nose up in the air. Yrs ago the Aunt and her husband decided to never have children. Her husband died and now she's alone. The result of not having children is why she's loney and alone today. Yrs ago there was family members helping this Aunt. I learned later that those family members drained her money and left her out to dry. None of her family wants anything to do with her now because,they now know they all drained her dry "She's about broke".
My cousin was her POA for yrs. My cousin died of cancer left the Aunt without a POA. This Aunt contacted me begging, crying for help. So, here I am today helping her. I took on this job as her caregiver and POA without thinking first. The only reason I became her POA & Caregiver is because, her attorney told me she needs a POA and no other family member was willing to help her. That's alot of information to place on my shoulders. How do I say no to a person in need? And how can someone not help someone in need? I had no choice but,to help her. I felt sorry for her,she's 88 yrs old and needs help. So, I agreed!
I learned her darkside. She is very hateful to me. Why?I have not a clue!
Everything I do for her I receive no thank yous. I want to stop helping her.
How do I do this? If I attempt to stop helping her I feel I'm throwing her to the dogs. If I don't help her knowone else will. How can you live with your self knowing this? Not easy for me.
People tell me to stop helping her and let the state take over. If I do that she will just point the finger at me, if why the state took over. Darn if I do or don't.
She's a very hateful person and it's not all from the Dementia. She refuses to spend a dime to help her self to stay living her her home alone. And I don't have the money to help her. She has the money but,refuses to spend it.
I'm tired of spending my own money to help her. She has more money then I do.
I'm in her Will when she dies. I get it all when she dies is part of the reason why I help her truth be told. But, she used her Will as a hook to get me to help her. Greed you say?Maybe for me ya maybe a little. Who wouldn't!
The things people will do for money!..And how old people use their Wills to obtain free help from family or friends. I careless about the Will anymore. She don't give me a dime to help her and I'm done. I want out.But,how to over come the guilt? Has anyone ever agreed to help a elderly out of greed of a Will? I did and I now regret getting involved. She may out live me. Isn't worth it.
What would you do?