A drive, a picnic, shopping, vehicle maintenance, garden supplies, a class, go to the library, paying bills, doing a project without worry and with full attention while someone else watches your wife. a brief reminder that life is still going on around you and you can be part of it.
Davegrant4478: You must not feel guilty for seeking respite for four hours a week as it is imperative that you do so for whatever reason that you require.
Only 4 hours!? You probably need more. I have 16 and it is not quite enough to get errands done, appointments, shopping, bill paying, arranging maintenance on house etc. etc. Also,tohavetime to recover, and have a respite, garden, take a class, meet with a friend. You deserve time.Caregiving is a hard task, mostly ungrateful work.
Dave Watch some Teepa Snow videos on how to respond to dementia. You can probably use the same reason you are leaving every time. “Off to work” would be one where she is conditioned to not go with. If she is having a good day and questions you going to work since you are retired, “they called me in”. My husband uses it…. 🤔
a brief reminder that life is still going on around you and you can be part of it.
Then why is she your EX? Did you realize, at any point, that you gave up your life, to live hers? One disease, two victims...................... :(
Watch some Teepa Snow videos on how to respond to dementia.
You can probably use the same reason you are leaving every time. “Off to work” would be one where she is conditioned to not go with. If she is having a good day and questions you going to work since you are retired, “they called me in”. My husband uses it…. 🤔