I have 2 brothers. One lives just outside of town, about half an hour away, the other is a thousand miles away. My husband quit his job to help me out at home. Now we're both burned out. My near by brother is unwilling to step in and spend much time with them, preferring to use our parent's money to bring in more respite workers (he does have POA for property).
Husband and I gave up our home, our jobs and our independence. We're paid a weekly stipend for caregiving, and live with free room and board. I've asked him to step in and give us a break, and also asked for an increase in the stipend. But, as I said, he'd rather pay additional outside workers more than we're paid (from our parent's bank accounts) than volunteer to help, or put himself out in any way...or contribute any of his own financial resources to their care.
Any suggestions as to how to reason with him? It feels very unfair to us, and to my parents, to only help by throwing their money around.