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I’m really having a difficult time. I was my father‘s caregiver for 14 months. My stepmother and siblings rarely saw my father. We were going to his trust attorney so he could make me the guardian of his Medical and he could stay in his home. When we showed up, they had a letter deeming him incompetent so he could not make those changes. They knew he wanted to stay in his home here with me. Later that night at 8 PM they came and took him out of his bed and to his wife’s house. She is the guardian on paper. Now I am being blocked from access to my father. I’ve only been able to see him one time and she won’t accept any phone calls from me or his grandchildren. What can I do? I’m so heartbroken.

Why were your father and stepmother living separately for the 14 months? How long were they married before that? Did they have a legal separation agreement? Is the house in his name only, or in both of their names? Who was handling your dad's finances during the 14 months? With her being the guardian on paper, is that because she is his wife, or is it because she went to court and got guardianship of him?

I'm sorry you're going through this.
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Guardiaship is usually gotten thru the Court system. His wife had to file for it, she had to prove Dad could no longer make informed decisions. This means doctor reports showing test results, etc. Then a judge reviews them and he determines that wife becomes guardian. You could have been in court to contest it.

If your Dad has been disgnoised with a Dementia, he could not have made you anything. Power of Attorney would be what I would have done for just Medical proxy.

I think you need to consult with a lawyer. You may just have to except this is the way it is. Tell Wife you just want to see your Dad. You will not interfer with her care of him, you just want to see and talk to him.
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Get a lawyer and fight it, but if he had a legitimate diagnosis of incompetence then I doubt there's anything that you can do, even with a lawyer. So sorry.
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