My mother is in an assisted living facility. She has dementia and hates the place. She tells me every time I visit her that the staff is mean and make her do things. Recently, I asked her to tell me what "they" make her do. Just then an aide opened her room door a little and gruffly said, "It's time to get to bed. Get your pajamas on!" The aide did not see me. When Mom did not answer, the aide opened the door more and saw me. She hurried to say, "What I meant was that I can help you get ready for bed now. If that is what you want?" We both told her that later would be better. After the aide closed the door and walked away. My mother whispered, "That is what I go through every night." It was 7:45 PM. Mom explained that they make her be in bed by 8:30 PM.
This bothered me. So, I went to talk to the aide. I asked her if residents could stay up to 10 PM? She said, "Oh, no! Everyone is in bed by 8:30." I asked her why? She said, "Well after the patients have their pills, they are tired." I told her that no one should be making my Mother do anything. She is able to understand and comply with rules if they are reasonable and explained to her. But, why is it reasonable to force everyone to go to bed at the same time? Not everyone needs the same amount of sleep.
My mother has always watched the 11PM news before going to bed. Now she does not dare to do that. Should I feel that my mother's rights are being violated? Is a set bedtime the norm at assisted living facilities? Should I be suspicious of the "pills" the patients get before bedtime? I never approved a sleeping pill for her. It is not on her medication list. What rights does my mother have as a resident in an assisted living facility?