My mom is on her last days of life, but I do believe in miracles. She has COPD and she had COVID. COVID did a number on her lungs. I notice everything is a yes with a nod and she stares up at the ceiling. Is this common?
When my 98 year old uncle John was lying on his deathbed in a coma, he suddenly sat bolt upright one day, opened his eyes wide, a smile split his face wide as he looked up at the ceiling and yelled MAMA! There was a look of pure joy on his face as he spoke that word, my cousin told me. He passed a few hours later, with a smile on his face.
What your mother is 'seeing' when she stares up at the ceiling nobody can say except her, and she's not speaking about it. It's quite common for someone at end of life to see and visit with their departed loved ones who come to visit with them before they depart. There are many, many books written by hospice nurses on this very subject. My favorite is Peaceful Passages: A Hospice Nurse's Stories of Dying by Janet Wehr
Read a brief summary of that book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014K603QA/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Your mother likely has one foot here and one on the other side, as my mother's hospice nurse explained to me when my mother was transitioning in February. That is quite common during the end of life process, and probably why she is staring up at the ceiling not saying much; she's preparing to leave this world for the next.
Wishing you peace during this difficult time. I know how hard it is to lose a parent and what it feels like to go through this process. Sending you a hug and a prayer as well.
Sorry about the harsh response from TChamp. That was uncalled for.
I would say your mother is semi-conscious and not really focusing on anything. It's a gradual downward slope toward death, and she's likely just slowly drawing the shades down, so to speak.
She isn't looking at angels o speaking to God. She is probably only half conscious and not looking at anything. You have to accept reality no matter how cruel and unjust it appears. This frank attitude will help you overcome the bereavement that will follow her departure. Fantasies and denial will only make your suffering last longer.
You can’t say what she is looking at either, tchamp. Are near death experiences the mere response of a dying brain, or portends into a world to come? Or both?
What your mother is 'seeing' when she stares up at the ceiling nobody can say except her, and she's not speaking about it. It's quite common for someone at end of life to see and visit with their departed loved ones who come to visit with them before they depart. There are many, many books written by hospice nurses on this very subject. My favorite is Peaceful Passages: A Hospice Nurse's Stories of Dying by Janet Wehr
Read a brief summary of that book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014K603QA/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Your mother likely has one foot here and one on the other side, as my mother's hospice nurse explained to me when my mother was transitioning in February. That is quite common during the end of life process, and probably why she is staring up at the ceiling not saying much; she's preparing to leave this world for the next.
Wishing you peace during this difficult time. I know how hard it is to lose a parent and what it feels like to go through this process. Sending you a hug and a prayer as well.
I would say your mother is semi-conscious and not really focusing on anything. It's a gradual downward slope toward death, and she's likely just slowly drawing the shades down, so to speak.