Glad I found this place.
I've been caring for my 83 year old father for the past 5 years.
I'm disabled myself and haven't been able to work for the past 3-4 years from life long spinal problems that have gotten bad enough that I can't work anymore.
I will probably be asking a lot of questions when I can't find an answer from searching.
Some of my ongoing problems with dad are....
1. He's always been lax on cleanliness. My mom used to be the one that pushed him to clean up and clean himself on an occasional basis but she passed away in 2002 and since I've been with him I've gotten him to bath twice.
One of his complaints when I argue about it is it's too cold or too hot. The water that is. He can't seem to regulate his temperature anymore.
I don't know how to get him to bath more often.
2. I can't get him too eat enough. I don't know if it's because he seems to have taste loss or something else.
I can make him something to eat that he says he liked a lot afterwards and give it to him again in a moth or two and now he doesn't like it.
3. He sleeps what seems like 18 hours a day and I don't know if this is from depression or maybe since he doesn't seem to eat enough his body doesn't have enough energy to stay awake a more normal amount of time.
Or if he is bored since he can't see much of anything anymore.
I've set up a media system in the house so he can watch all kinds of movies and I even got movies he loved from his youth (old westerns) but he gets bored it seems after a while and with regular tv as well. He never was the type to really listen to music which I think is because of his hearing damage from the war.
He used to like to play with the computer all day till his sight went south on him
I think he's depressed from his age related decline.
I would like to find some kind of activities to occupy his mind but have no idea what.
I'm also wondering if he's developing alzheimers because his memory is horrible at times and satisfactory at other times (for his age) and his attention seems to be that of a small child anymore.
I love him to death and want to help however I can but just don't know what to do sometimes.