Is anyone revising their plans for their own future care seeing the spread of covid-19 in facilities? I know I am!!!

No real plans as of yet for me. I have told my kids that if I follow my mother down the Yellow Brick Road (dementia), the place she is in would be my choice (MC.) I would not want them to have the burden of providing my care with that. With dementia, if something like the virus swept the facility, it would probably be a blessing in disguise, so long as there was no suffering. In our case, mom's facility is still virus free (combination of IL, AL and MC.) Our county currently only has about 45 confirmed cases and I believe one death (more in more populous areas and NHs, but much less that some places.)

For other ailments, it will depend on what it is and how much assistance would be needed. Hopefully it won't come to that...

While caring for my Husband I made the expensive decision to buy Long Term Care Insurance. My first thought was..no one will care for me the way I cared for my Husband, and I do not want to put family in the position to feel that they have to either care for me or place me. The policy that I have will provide care in my home. And luckily the home I purchased was built handicap accessible so I don't have to worry about that.
So no my plans have not changed but COVID19 has cemented the fact that I made the right decision 5 or 6 years ago.

I find everyone's perspective interesting. Presumably most of you are in the senior's category but not up to my age.

My dd has said I could live with them. We lived together here this summer for 5 months under a time of some stress and it worked fine so she felt she could offer that. I guess I will leave it in the realm of possibility but it would not be my first choice. If I got to the point of needing more care than assisted living I would not want my dd to be burdened with that.

Ideally, I would like my own residence of some sort, that was or could be adapted to senior needs. Aging in place is a great idea if there are enough resources.

Illness may strike so if one has to live in a facility - so be it.

One aunt, on my father's side after her husband died, moved from her home into a senior's townhouse, I guess you would call it, It was her own unit, she cooked etc for herself. The outside and grounds were looked after. There was a pull cord in the bedroom and in the bathroom if she needed help. And there was a main building for seniors who were not as independent as she was. She lived there till she was 97. I gather she had some heart issues but didn't seem too badly off. One morning bending over to pick up the milk bottle which has been delivered to her door, she lost her balance and fell onto the cold brick patio type area outside her door, and lay there for a while before someone noticed and got help. She was put into hospital due to hypothermia, and passed within 2 weeks. So basically she lived in her home until the end. It's a nice way to go though she really wanted to reach 100!

I have more stories of seniors in the family I will share later. They are the ones I am looking at for ideas for myself and well as learning for everyone here.

I decided to stay home and take care of myself if possible. I am thinking of getting LTC insurance as Grandma stated, I wish I did years ago. It was reasonable and a very good policy, but I cancelled it. Wondering how expensive it is now? I might consider a live in helper that needs a home, room & board and salary included. I am with GardenArtist peace and quiet. I will save my money and use it for necessities and the upkeep of my home. Used to think I will surrender some money and house to family members and go to a Senior Housing Facility, but I don't think so. Have to think of myself in my old age. Don't plan on family taking care of me. My dad and mom planned very well for their old age. I am trying to do the same.

One thing clear from everyone’s experience is that death from cancer or another serious illness is very different from the years and years of declining dementia. Like 1 year compared with 10 years, with all that implies for caregiving. Our GP told DH and me that few of his patients would live past 85 without drugs, particularly for heart issues. I hope that medical practice will change so that we can all die earlier and with less stress to ourselves and our carers, and less need for staggeringly expensive care facilities.

I so agree.... all that has to happen is for ARTIFICIALLY prolonging life to stop at a certain age or on request. My husband is much younger, and he says he wants me to do 50 years with him - a nice compliment! However, I don't want to be 91; unless I'm independent; REALLY independent, not fake independent.

I'm relatively young at 63 but wheelchair bound 10 years ago from progressive degenerative issues. Widowed with no family I live in UK. I have no support at all and haven't wanted it. I have all my marbles (I think lol) and like my independence.
I talk regularly by phone/messenger to a friend in NY and another 350 miles away.
I've been totally home bound since 12th March thanks to Covid 19 and it's given me time to reflect on my plans for the future. I have a will in place (though little to leave), an Advanced Directive (how I ideally want end of life to go), an End of Life Doula, my funeral and burial are sorted and my bff has POA.
I want to stay in my (Housing Association) bungalow with my cats until the end, that has always been my wish.
On Thursday my Dr. video called me and at the end of the call advised me that
she was concerned about my deteriorating physical/mental health from being in prolonged isolation (I can't get outside at all at the present) and as such I had 2 choices go into hospital or go to a place that is usually run as a Respite Centre.
It was closed in Jan for refurbishment and Covid 19 meant it didn't reopen. It's now being used by our NHS for people who are not safe at home (temporarily) but don't need hospital treatment. There are Nurses there. I'll be away for a month and arranging care of my fur babies has not been easy.
I still hold to my original decisions though, I will return home when I am well (I hope) and end my life in my home with whatever Care Support I can tolerate.
My late DH had carers when he had Cancer because I was not physically able to care for him with my own disabilities. That was the theory anyway, the carers were for the most part a nightmare and I nursed him myself July-Feb when he died. I then dealt with not only his death but the effects of months doing things I physically/mentally shouldn't have done. No regrets though, he had a gentle death with me at his side to his last breath.

Golden, I hadn't planned to leave my home, and am more intent on that now. Dying in a facility without the resources or even the desired ability to have them is not the way I plan to go.

I'm evaluating what needs to be done to accommodate older, possibly somewhat compromised living and plan to make those changes as I alter other aspects of the home to accommodate older living. More desirably, I want to move to a quieter, less congested area, where people actually speak to each other and cars don't zoom down the street regularly. I want peace and quiet.

Taking care of my parents and sister offered good insights into different levels of care, so I have a pretty good idea what I'll need, unless I develop some catastrophically compromising disease or illness.

What plans are you making?

Here in Canada, especially in BC, ON and PQ, Covid-19 has decimated care facilities. I know my Mum (86) worries about friends who live in them and has said she would shoot herself before entering one. She does not have a gun, so I am not worried about that.

Here there will be some major changes to how seniors are cared fro moving forward. One outcome is going to be better working conditions for staff and better employment, full time hours and benefits, so they can work in just one facility instead of many.

I am sure shared rooms will be a thing of the past too, unless it is for a couple. Finding a way to stop people from wandering into other people's rooms is important too. A friend who is physically impaired but mentally all there is having to shoo people out of her room all the time.

I think the use of restraints in facilities will increase, physical or medical. There will be court challenges, but one person's rights end, when they impact another person's health and well being.

Here in BC there has been a program called Better At Home that provides supports to seniors in their homes, I feel that program will need additional funding. It will also need far more staff and the staff will have to assigned to set families, perhaps 5 different families in their case load.

One thing that care facilities are acknowledging is all the unpaid labour provided by family and other volunteers. With facilities on lock down, the staff is being stretched even further to provide needed care.

Lastly, I think the "keep them alive at all costs" method of medical care will be reviewed. If someone cannot survive without many medications, trips to the hospital etc, perhaps Home Hospice will be called earlier? I am not suggesting euthanasia, but just allowing nature to takes it course. This is what my grandmother did, when she had Chronic Leukemia, she refused excessive treatment and let nature take it course. She was only hospitalized for 5 days prior to her death, up until that time she was at home.

I have always said I would get an apartment if DH passed before me. Living in a 4 floor split level is really not conducive to old age. One reason my Mom could not live with me forever. But none of us knows what the future will bring.

My friend, earlier in the year, finally moved into a Senior apt. Loved it. A few months later landed in the hospital and then an extended stay in rehab. Not sure of all that happened but she went beyond the 100 days allowed and now is in LTC. She had to give up her apt and her dog. At 71, she has parkinsons and just diagnoised with stomach cancer. She is her own worst enemy, though. Estranged from her sons. TG she has a couple of friends who have handled things for her, one her POA. But, she is going to have to live in LTC for the rest of her life. And now Covid. She can have no visitors. How depressing for someone who is still with it. In a room all day long. Even though I have been upset with her the last year for a nasty message she left me, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

So yes, I may rethink the AL thing. No, I don't want my girls caring for me. So, I hope I stay healthy. I know one thing, I don't want to live into my 90s.