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My mom passed away in April 2015. In June, my father moved from TN to our home in Maine. He'll be 90 in a couple of weeks. Other than his hearing (2 hearing aids from VA) and having slowed down quite a bit since Mom's passing - he was her caretaker - they had been married for 64+ years - he's in really, REALLY good shape. No meds, no major health problems, no ambulatory problems. He decided to give up driving since coming here (which I'm okay with). My husband and I work weekdays. We've had a beautiful summer here & per HIS request, Pop has done some outdoor work and even mowed part of our lawn a few times (we bought a self-propelled mower & the front lawn is totally flat). He caught on how to use the cable TV system, I bought him a number of books on WWII, subscribed to National Geographic Mag, he putters in the house (laundry and breakfast dishes)...we even just found a wonderful companion dog: 2 year old Honey- a Cockapoo who is absolutely wonderful & loves Pop. We go out as often as possible with Pop - and Pop & I have a weekly errand run together on Saturdays (the farmer's market, grocery store, etc.) which he seems to enjoy - especially the routine of it. My sister & I plan to take him on a week-long trip to Florida in November (but that's another story)...BUT my reason for writing is this: I'm really worried about how he's gonna fare this winter when it's too cold to go out for him and he starts feeling cabin fever. What suggestions do folks have to help keep "Pop or Mom": from having long, boring days? He doesn't play cards, our Senior Center just closed down and he won't go near a computer. Any ideas? I know that part of his "boredom" has got to be the enormous grief he must be feeling due to the loss of Mama & moving to Maine - and I can't take that away. But would like some good ideas for setting him up for a few more interesting hours during the day. Thank you.

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Thanks again to all - I'm making notes! Pop was in the UDT in WWII and a paratrooper in the Korean Conflict. After he left the service, he was a career letter carrier. Yup - I'm the mailman's daughter!

So Pop is a pretty tough old fella - still lifts weights and exercises 5 days per week. He carefully watches what he eats - oatmeal with blueberries every morning, very little meat ever and always green tea. Never over eats. He's in beautiful condition, except for the hearing.

Here in Maine it gets pretty darned cold. Right now we're having low to mid-30s at night & 50-60s in the daytime - and this is October. Single digit temps are normal once the "winter" starts. Last year, we had a foot of snow fall on Nov 1. Pop's not used to this weather, so the woodstove in our livingroom is already in use. I'm thinking outdoor activities won't be on the agenda for Pop. I will take him to the local Mall at least once per week so we can do the "mall walk."

We live in a semi-rural area in a small town outside of Bangor. Our neighbors are fairly friendly, but aren't close enough by to borrow a cup of sugar or band together for anything.

BUT....I'm taking all suggestions to heart and am armed & ready start putting things together so Pop will never feel at a loss for something interesting to do.
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Word games. Does he have an IPad? Do you have one he could experiment with? Word for Friends is no more than Scrabble, and an IPad is awesomely simply. Might want to give it a try despite HIS reluctance.

Search For Words magazines. Introduce him to daytime TV - Investigation Discovery has interesting crime programs on all day. Jigsaw puzzles permanently set up either on the dining room table or an $89 fold up that never gets put away. Reading in general. Science Digest has really interesting lay articles. Crossword puzzles. Court TV. Do you send Xmas cards? Ask him if he'd address the envelopes.

See if your township or county has any senior services, either cheap or free. Mom's county provided a lady to come in twice a month for two hours to do light housework. It cost her $14 each time. This lady's value wasn't in her cleaning, though she did a lick and promise, it was in keeping mom company every other week. $28 a month. What a bargain!

Hope some of these ideas sound helpful. I applaud you for your thoughtfulness. Good daughter!
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THANK YOU - Maggie! Great ideas...he used to like building model planes, have already thought about searching for an easy-to use table & some models he can work with....will talk to my sibs about an ipad....and pick up a few jigsaw puzzles. I've thought about the Christmas cards, but was a little reluctant - first Christmas after Mom's passing,,,thought I'd offer to do it with him...

You've set me in a couple of directions and I already feel a sense of relief....
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Thank you, GA - Pop is a vet of WWII and the Korean Conflict. He's a 100% disabled Vet. I just signed Pop up for a WWII UDT Veteran Association - hopefully he'll be getting newsletters & maybe a contact or two from that.

Just before Pop moved here, I did some initial research with the eastern area agency on aging.....wasn't impressed with the results - but they were kind enough to tell me that I had some good ideas..lol. I'm going to redouble my efforts and check with area churches (he is Catholic), the town office and see about meals on wheels (although I make sure he has a nutritious homemade lunch ready to microwave every day). I've also checked with the VA - who will pay $1,000 per month for an aide (Pop's 100% disabled) - but Pop's not so disabled that he qualifies for them to pay someone to come in....even just to cook him a lunch and spend an hour or two just chatting.

My husband is a Maine Native, I've been here 10 years. Our house is all set for any snow emergencies - woodstove, wood furnace, every type of flashlight known to man, two portable radios...3 types of blankets, quilts and comforters....a small generator. I'm about to hang thermal curtains in Pop's bedroom and have just ordered the thickest, softest, warmest flannel sheets LL Bean sells. Pop's snow boots will arrive soon (found some that are easy on/off and good to -30 degrees) and he just bought his first 3 pairs of thick wool socks. My aim is to make sure he's warm and comfortable all day AND all night.

Thanks so much for your help! I love every suggestion I get!
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Thermal curtains - that's a great idea! I'm going to explore adapting that idea to our curtains. You're really well prepared for those frigid Maine winters!

Your father was a Frogman? - the precursors to the Navy Seals? WOW!!! Your Pop must be a very special person; I'm guessing he's pretty tough, too.

I wonder if you can find some model submarines he can build.

Catholic churches usually have a lot of outreach programs, as do the Jewish charities (but they're not restricted to Jewish people). I found a lot of resources of which I was previously unaware while surfing our local county's Senior Resources directory.

Just found some notes I made on other activities. We have an annual surplus of Christmas cards because of the many lovely cards we get from charities. We plan to give some to the Senior Center to donate to the many caring folks who drive for Meals on Wheels, to local rehab and care facilities, and possibly to pediatric or ICU units of local hospitals (depending on whether they’ll accept cards that aren’t sterile). And there's always the VA; as I recall from a conversation sometime ago, they collect cards to give to the patients in the hospital, and I believe they also do that at the VA homes.

If you can get an aide through the VA, I think you'll find him/her very special. The people who work at the Ann Arbor, Michigan VA are outstanding - I've never met so many caring and helpful people.

After reading yours and Maggie's posts, I'm almost (well, pretty close to almost but with a bit of cold weather dread) looking forward to another winter.
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Maybe he would have fun teaching the dog some tricks? Would keep the dog busy, too.
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Pfontes, Can I come live with you guys? It sounds like fun! You've got one lucky Pop to be cared for so well.
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Windy, every family has a fun-maker, it appears with your sense of humor that you're it!
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I'll be the first to nominate Windy as the official fun-maker for this site. I think we could really benefit from his humor.
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You're also a military daughter and certainly show the forward thinking and preparedness of one!

Mid-30's already? Brrrrr. I'll bet your Pops is already shivering.

Something else you can do is let him help you with the baking, which is already on my mind as I think of the cold temperatures. He can especially help with bread, if you make it homemade. The exercise he gets probably would enable him to do a great job at punching down homemade bread. And to me there's nothing like the fragrance of bread rising and baking on a cold day.

BTW, welcome to the Forum.
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