I'm truly overwhelmed and no longer want to be POA!

Yes, what ordinary person keeps receipts of every little thing. However so many people have qualified I suspect there is some reasonable level of documentation that can be met.

Is your mother on Medicaid? I totally understand your feelings. I am POA and not matter what I do or don't do one of my 4 siblings has a problem with it. Do the best you can as far as getting all the paperwork. You may need to hire a lawyer that deals with elder care

Thanks for the replies, but no, there is nothing I can hire out.
The main problem now is that Medicaid wants statements for 5 years
now with ALL receipts/invoices and explanations of anything written
or deposited in her two accounts.

I do not have all the receipts, can try and get some invoices from a couple
of big projects on her home the previous year, but I can't even imagine trying
to gather so terribly much paperwork. I've sent a lot of paperwork in in the past.
I just don't have it in me to gather ALL this stuff and even if I try and do, there will
most certainly be some I won't be able to get or they may just ask for more, then
more again, then some more.

I called a couple of Senior Advocates and they said there is no other option but to
send in anything they want. I have been trying to figure out a way to take her back to her house and hire part time help, but not enough money left. I've considered other nursing homes, not enough money left in her account.

I love my mother to death but, I just am out of solutions for her future care without any more financial resources. She is 90 years old. Will the nursing home evict her
and put her out on the street? I just don't know what to do anymore. I've called so many organizations, Medicaid office, Eldercare Advocates, etc., all to no avail.

I feel as if I am going to explode from the worry and stress! Any knowledgeable suggestions as to where I can get help or where I can place her without Medicaid will be greatly appreciated.

Your POA most likely allow you to hire others to help with things like bill paying, Medicaid qualification, real estate advisor or any number of people or services that might help you to retain your POA position while not becoming burnt out or overwhelmed. You could resign as POA if the document has named a successor POA and you formally resign. If there's no successor POA named, and your parent is no longer capable to execute a new POA, there's the guardianship/conservatorship route, but that route could have very negative consequences as well.

It's very tiring and mentally stressful as it is, but if you resigned, would the stress of another POA not handling things properly be any better for you? Are there things that you take care of that you could hire out (using your mother's funds) instead?

This community has a lot of people with a wide range of experiences. Is there anything you could share that someone may be able to provide a resource to take that duty over for you?

Clearly you are doing a good job, and can see how stressful it is. You are allowed as POA to lighten your load - is there anything you could have someone else manage?

Best wishes.

Do you know any accountants, tax people or smart trusted bank folks that you can go to for ideas?

I feel the pressure too as we near running out of money. Do you have any of Mom's assets you can sell easily. Each of us has our own set of unique challenges. Think carefully before you give up POA. Chances are if your brother is not much help, he will not do as good a job of POA as you have.

Hang in there and look for some support before you throw in the towel!!

You can't give your brother POA (unless he is named successor if you resign), but you can certainly ask him to pitch in to make phone calls or fill in paperwork as your agent, you also can hire an accountant or other professional to do some of the things you are having trouble with (paying them out of you mother's funds).