Shes 94. I'm taking her from nurse home cause of neglect. I found assisted living for her. My family says I care more about my RN school than her and if I cared I'd quit school and keep her at home with me.
If I haven't learned anything in this crazy world we live in the ONE thing I did learn is you have to care of yourself! No one will do it for you because when all things are done, meaning when the time comes and your LO has passed on and everything is taking care of than what are you to do? This situation your in may feel like it will never end, but I a sure you that it will, and you have to have a plan for your life! Your family is not only being selfish, but they are only seeing one side. Do you really think they are going to be there to help you pick up the pieces of your life after your LO passes? I can answer that for you...No! Do what you have to do to make sure you will be on the right track after this is all over! Sorry, but you need to take care of you too! Finsh your schooling otherwise you may never go back! Do Not Quit School!
Your "family" is wrong. Do they stand to inherit something from mom if she doesn't have to pay for caregiving? I would look at greed as their primary motivation if that is the case.
Please don't listen to them and stick with your studies!!!!
Well your family is wrong. Your primary concern is your future. You are ensuing Mum gets proper care in the Nursing home.
I too went back to school as a 'mature' student and have elderly parents. I am quite clear that my education comes first. I cannot afford to take a semester off to look after them. I need to set up my future.
Well if your family cared, they would take her in and care for her. So I would ask them why they don’t care about her. I’d flip the table over on them and tell them they care more about their jobs and if they really loved her, they would quit their jobs and give up up their lives to take care of her. What is selfish is expecting someone to drop everything and put their life on hold to take care of someone else. Your mom is 94. How does your family think you will support yourself after she’s gone if you put school on hold?
Seems like a perfect solution to me. If they feel she should live with someone, they can take over her care. I’m sure you’ve chosen an AL facility that will provide for all of her needs.
Danielle, good for you! Your education will last your life, and mom would be proud of you. Being selfish? Not at all, you need to care for yourself and prepare for your own retirement.
Maybe sibs will volunteer to take your caregiving place?
Please don't listen to them and stick with your studies!!!!
The “selfish” ones here are the family members who are guilting you.
Stick with your plan.
I too went back to school as a 'mature' student and have elderly parents. I am quite clear that my education comes first. I cannot afford to take a semester off to look after them. I need to set up my future.
Maybe sibs will volunteer to take your caregiving place?