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My Mother is 98, health of a 65 year old. Never been sick, takes no prescription medication at all never has. Takes 20+ natural vitamins a day and has for 30 years. Now keeping track of her bills frustrates and confuses her and when that stress level gets to a point her mind flips to a total different personality. When in this state for an hour or several days she remembers nothing at all. Complete blank space. Things she moves around, usually in places she never has placed anything before, now we can't find at all. Example: She had 550.00 in 5's and 10's. That's a wad of cash. On the counter in her bathroom one minute and gone the next in her mind. -- could have been hours, could have been days for her blank spaces vary --. Been two months now we can not find the money. Or her car keys, or the garage opener. I found her cell phone inside the George Forman Grill. She also now walks in her sleep. I happened to be up one night and caught this happening. Got my cell out a filmed her for 30 minutes rustling through office files and they goes back to bed. Woke up and remembers nothing hour and half later even after I show her the video. Sometimes thinks I'm doing all of this and conspiring to steal her money. Called the police on me 4 times in a 36 hour period. When I try and talk about what's missing and well you sleep walk could you have done it. When she say, "I didn't do that''. or "I don't remember doing that", the conversation stops as I have no come back for it. She is convinced there is another presents or angles doing this. I've had her brain scanned (results not in yet) but she's in total denial she has a problem. Hard to make appointments for bank or doctor or have her eyes or hearing checked for her a week or more off as she won't remember why she needs to go or I don't know these people are. I have not checked them out. I'm not doing this.
Her personality switches so fast sometime. Had a meeting set at bank, she got up ate, showered, dressed got into the truck and we drove to the bank for a meeting. Pull up in front --- "What are we doing here? I don't need to see anyone at the bank". Forgot everything in 5 minutes. Just put the truck in reverse and drive back home there is nothing I can say at that point to get her out for a meeting. I need to take over her monthly bills as Internet, phone, lights gets turned off. Now I have to deal with it and have tried but I do not have power or attorney so none of these entities will even talk to me so I can't help her.
I'm to the point that I'm considering filing to get control before she logs onto the God Channel and give all her jewelry to an evangelist or all her money away to some TV pastor.
Any suggestions is appreciated.
Dalton

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Str8, welcome! And (((hugs))).

Are you in touch with mom's doc? Are you on a Hipaa form so you can talk to doc?

(Also, does she have will, Poa and all those other forms done?).

You can and should contact her doc and let her/him know about the mental status changes you are seeing. They are worrisome.
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Pursuing guardianship through the courts can be very expensive. You should consult an elder law attorney to see the path before you. It sounds like your mom is cognitively beyond being able to create a PoA, or even if she were she wouldn't be willing. FYI short term memory loss does not necessarily prevent someone from assigning a PoA. It has to do more with comprehension, not retention. You can try to get your mom to an elder law attorney who will then interview her privately to assess her ability to understand what assigning a DPoA would mean for her and whether she wants it to be you. Aside from this, there is either guardianship by you or the county, if she doesn't cooperate with what is in her best interests. I wish you success in helping her.
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Barb, Thanks,
Mom has never been sick, she does not have a doctor. She just changed Insurance Companies so first step will be to help her establish a Primary Doctor. She has a will from 25 years ago. POA and other forms? I don't see any. Hipaa, don't know what that is.
Dalton
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MJ1929 Feb 2022
HIPAA is the form they have you sign at a doctor's appointment that gives them permission (or not) for them to talk about you and your health with someone else like a family member.

If your mom is getting a new doctor, she’ll have to fill out a new HIPAA form. You need to make sure your name is on it as well in order to be able to talk to the doctor about what’s going on with her.
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