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She argue with us and says she does not like to lose her hair due to frequent washing,but as for now she did not wash them a few weeks and looks terrible.Regards and thanks in advance for your time.Ps.I am not sure if I have a right to be at the forum???

Of course you have every right to be here.
We Canadians are very welcome by our American friends here. Obviously there is more of them as per demographic. And great advice!
BTW, have you engaged homecare, they help with showers and respite?
And support for caregivers, I get 3-4 hours respite every day!
And when sadly time comes for more care or placement they do it all!
As Lea suggested Shampoo-Hassle-Free-Bedridden-Chamomile-Medcosa are available on Amazon.ca.
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Here is an Amazon link to no rinse shampoo caps:

https://www.amazon.com/Shampoo-Hassle-Free-Bedridden-Chamomile-Medcosa/dp/B08KYD2VQH

You'll need to go to Amazon in Canada, but this gives you an idea of what we're talking about.

Your wife may be afraid of water on her face. If so, the beauty parlor idea is ideal since they use sinks where you lay back and get no water in your face.

Best of luck to you.
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Hi rminda
welcome to the forum.
i learnt about the waterless shampoo and conditioner caps funkygrandma59 has suggested on this forum and thought they are brilliant.
i couldn’t warm them up as mum doesn’t have a microwave but they made everything a lot easier - mum has Parkinson’s, Parkinson’s dementia and very bad arthritis in her spine. I still put towels around her so she felt warm and she was on a chair in front of the telly!
it’s a great alternative if you can get to a salon etc
take good care
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Welcome! Most all here found this site when facing something frustrating in caregiving. There’s a wealth of experience and knowledge to be had, you can use the search feature to find topics you want to know more about.
Sadly, part of dementia is no longer being capable of making sound decisions. Your wife cannot be in charge of hair washing, she likely doesn’t recall the steps, or may have fear associated with it. The choices now are for you to do it of hire an aide to help with it.
I hope you’re able to get regular breaks and care for yourself. I wish you peace
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Like already said you may have to wash her hair for her as she may no longer remember how to do it.
Plus you can buy online at Amazon or Walmart the waterless shampoo and conditioner caps that you just warm in the microwave a few seconds and then put on her head tucking in all her hair and just rub it around. They work pretty well. I had to use them after my hip replacement surgery and couldn't get in the shower for a while and I also used them on my husband when he became bedridden towards the end of his life.
Welcome to the forum!
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Of course you have a right to be here. We sympathize with your situation.

If you are able to take her to a salon, as others suggested, that might help. Is there one that she regularly went to before? If you talk to the ladies in advance, they could make a little fuss welcoming her and saying they want to make her pretty hair even prettier, so that it's a positive experience for her. They don't need to cut it except for every few months.
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Nah caregiving is universal, in my time on the forum there have been members from all over around world.
If you are getting her to bathe you are fortunate, do you have home care to help with that? If so what do they say?
A couple of ideas for you - take her to a salon once a month for a wash and cut, then maintain at home with dry shampoo and a good brushing.
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Taking your last comment first
You have every right to be on this forum. You are a caregiver.
You are taking care of your wife with dementia.
You need advice from peop0le that are going through the same thing or have gone through it.
You will learn, if you don't know already that none of us can or should do this alone. We all need help.

You may have to wash her hair for her.
Getting the head wet can cause anxiety.
Washing the hair is complicated.
getting the items you need
getting the water temp right
what bottle of stuff to use first
there are a lot of decisions.....

what you might want to do if you are able to get her out is take her to a salon and they can do a wash and if she needs a trim they can do that and then style it.

Your other option would be to get someone in a few days a week to give her a shower or bath and wash her hair as well.
I am wondering if she needs help with personal hygiene as well. So maybe someone helping her is not a bad idea.
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