I think My mom is waiting for me to tell her it’s ok to go before death. How do I muster up the words? I just can’t!!

I told my mom that God doesn’t make mistakes and when he comes to get her, to go. And that I will see her again. I sang “Till we meet again”, “Poor wayfaring stranger”, “Abide with me” very softly. It is so hard because we want our mother’s comfort when our mothers are dying so I suppose the songs were for both of us-Hugs to you.

If you can’t say goodbye can you tell her you’ll be ok? I couldn’t say goodbye to my mom but I could tell her I would be ok and I would make sure Dad would be ok. Huge hugs to you.

I have to take a contrarian point of view and say that I don't think any words will help a dying parent let go. My mother is at the end of her life, and I've told her many times that I love her. Today I told her (as recommended in the forum) that she was so influential to my success as an adult. (I'm an only child.) At one point I told her it was okay to go and she said "Go where?". I told her to be with her mother and her husband and she seemed unfazed.

She has actually cried out "I want to go home" and "I just want to die" but she has continued to languish. So, I think the body gives up when it is ready. It breaks my heart to see my mother in this condition and I'm sorry I can't be the bearer of better news, but that is my experience.