This has been ongoing for the last 5 years. It has caused much stress in my own family with me and my wife splitting up because my savings is gone and I now have no income. I was told that I could have been receiving compensation for taking care of my mother. I found nothing through her social security disability and live in Indiana here as well as my mother. My mother also has Indiana medicaid. Can anyone please help or guide me where to go for help?
It would help to know her age; her health problems; your age; your former work and qualifications for getting another job; now unrecognizable your separation is from your wife if you made some radical changes in your life right now; and how is she managing to support herself and the children which are what ages?
Ok, here are my radical suggestions. 1. Get a doctor's order for some home health care, but first see if medicaid will pay for that. 2. If 1 does not work then get the doctor to order her to go to a nursing home and find one that takes medicaid. 3. Start seriously and intentionally getting employed. 4. Go beg your wife to forgive you for what you have done and request she agree to a time of separation while you prove yourself to her and get your feet financially back on the ground. 5. Get yourself into some therapist to discover what all family of origin dynamics were going on between you and your mom that basically your marriage as well as children have basically become collateral damage in the wake of your not working; moving back home, and evidently mom becoming number one.
I have seen people mention some articles here about getting financial help while taking care of an elderly parent, but I don't think that will really reconcile your problems to the point of giving some glimmer of possibly of saving your relationship with your wife and the children you fathered.