I just got off the phone with the administrator at the facility where my BIL is located. As most of you know, the facility is located 4 hours away from his home. Isolating him from all his family and friends.
I just found out today that this company owns another facility that is 40 minutes away. Therefore, I asked the administrator could she please fax over all his information there in hopes that he could be transferred.
Her response was, "Why would I want her to do that"? That my BIL is having behavior problems and that they are not going to accept him. She went on to say that when my BIL was transferred to where he is at now, that no one made her aware of any behaviors and had she known, she would not have accepted him either.
All I know is there is a lot that is going on that is not right and we need to get to the bottom of this.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO? I know I have asked this time after time but I know there is somebody out there that can help me. Thank you all.
I think that you are going to have to ask for a care meeting (which you can attend by phone with your husband).
You need to ask for specifics about BIL's behavioral issues.
You need to ask what treatments have been tried and if those treatments have worked at all.
You need to make sure that the mental health professional who is treating your BIL is at least on the phone at this meeting to make recommendations for treatment and what KIND of placement he needs.
You need to point out that if he is moved closer to you and your DH, you will be able to visit more often and be more involved with BIL's care (IF that is what you are going to do).
You need to ask if getting him placed in a secure psychiatric hospital for a trial of different meds is a possibility and if perhaps that kind of psych placement is what he actually needs.
What Barb is saying is totally reasonable. I can’t imagine why they would object to any of those requests or concerns. This has to be so frustrating for you. I admire your determination to work through this. Keep talking, eventually someone will listen. Let’s hope it’s sooner rather than later. Good luck!
This has been going on since Dec. 2016?
Maybe you are making progress now, but it is slow.
I don't know if this will work, but call, or appear at the facility you want your BIL to be at, and arrange his transfer there. Tell them, how could Corporate object, he is already in a similarly owned facility.
Maybe, write to Corporate. Do not accuse them of anything, instead just push for family is closer.
One would think that if your BIL is such a behavior problem, why would the current administrator want to keep him so bad by being uncooperative?
I know that I cannot help you, but I wish for you the best.
Thank you so much for responding. Yes, dear; this has been going on a very long time.
I called corporate and just explained how I would just love to have him closer. Corporate stated I would have to speak with the current administrator. She obviously thought I was crazy.
The administrator asked me " You mean you want me to send them your BIL paperwork after I've already told you he has behavior problems"? I just can not give up.
You sound like a wonderful advocate. Your tenacity is going to pay off. Just wait and see. It will work out. Hugs! You have been through an awful lot. I’m so sorry that you and your family have had to endure this heartache.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I can tell by your responses that you have a heart of gold.
Thank you for responding. This has been going on for at least 4 years. My BIL has been transferred from one place to another but he can never get placed closer to home due to the facilities stating he has behavior problems.
Thanks for responding.
When mother was in a dreadful rehab, I made a big fuss and got her out of there after finding a much better place. My point is, don't be Mrs Nice Guy. Fight for what you want and know your rights. I am unfamiliar with your story so forgive me if I'm missing some important piece of info I'm unaware of.
Wishing you the very best of luck
Such a crummy situation for all of them.
Hailey, I would have them send all the paperwork to you. That way you can copy it, read it and know it has been delivered.
I had to get ugly and stand over the knot head that was supposed to send my dads paperwork for transfer. It got to be completely ridiculous the lies that were told about the paperwork, it was sent 10xs according to the facility, however when I stood over her shoulder the receiving facility miraculously received it. This is probably part of your struggle.
I do not have to have any authority. My husband is the next of kin. He (and his wife) do have the authority to speak on BIL behalf when it comes to his best interest. Besides, it has nothing to do with why we can not get BIL closer to home. Thank you for your response.
NO I DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE AUTHORITY. I could go on and on …. I could care less about anybody being on my side. It's not about me it is about my BIL.