I just moved my father into an assisted living, and I was going every day. He has called and is pissed. But he has type 2 diabetes and pacemaker, on top of few other condition that needs constant care. I was driving 3 hours a week and sometimes twice a week to help take care of him, and also taking weeks off to take him to appointments. After a year it has become to much and had to make this decision. Its heart wrenching, and I was going everyday and even took him out in the first week to a museum (which he loved) but the very next day he called and was upset again. The assisted living explained I should not come as often and let him settle in more, should I do this? The guilt is killing me (he's only been for one week). But I also just lost my step father in the same week, and have been trying to help my 80 mother and she is an hour away, this is all a lot for one person. so any advice?