My dad died so, he asked me to please come back home and help take care of my mother. I agreed but lost my job. After living with them for not even a year, I ended up having a blood clot that went to my brain that required having brain surgery. I also have congestive heart failure, chronic bronchitis and sometimes pneumonia. I was paying rent previously to leaving and taking care of someone else and their home. When I moved back, I was not paying rent because I lost my job and then ended up in the hospital for brain surgery. I was filing for a disability, got denied the first time and am now trying to appeal, but now my mother decided she wants to move. I have like 13 days. I get panic attacks. It's hard for me to breathe and I can't do what I used to do. I need to know what rights I have to not to move in 13 days. She wants to just donate all my stuff if I do not choose to move with her. I can't take half of my stuff with me. I moved home to help them. I did the yards, the pool, I buy groceries (I buy my own food and toiletries). I was paying them $400 a month rent until I had brain surgery.
You are GIVING care but PAY rental?
You are now disabled yourself?
So who is the caregiver, could I ask?
I honestly thing that just now it is SOOOO important that you get your disability pay on board. It is hard. You apply with your own doctor's recommend but you have to pass DISABILITY qualification.
They say the most important thing now in that final interview is not what you have, illness and etc, but WHY YOU CAN'T work. So it comes down to claiming everything, but mostly that emotionally you cannot deal with the public, cannot think carefully enough, and etc.
I am so sorry. I think that whatever funds you do have now, you truly need elder care attorney VERY qualified in disability to begin to get your disability on board. Once done you need not stay with Mother. You can rent a room in someone's home, have a caseworker to help you apply for help in housing and etc.
So sorry to hear all this, and I know when you are disabled it is dreadfully difficult to negotiate all you need to know. DO research online "Qualifying for disabilty" and learn all you can. Talk with others with these problems who have been there and done this. I wish you good luck and hope you can update us.
Regarding the move in 13 days, what are the details? Does your mother own the house? Has it been sold? Or was she renting it and ended her lease?
It sounds like she is downsizing and will let you come with her but cannot accommodate all of your things in the smaller space. Is that correct? If so that is a perfectly reasonable request.
If it's important for you to keep your things, then you can rent a storage unit for your items until you recuperate from the surgery and can look for a place of your own, or have time to sort through and decide what to keep and what to get rid of in the new home with your mom. You can look online for a local service that can pack up and move your items since it sounds like you can't physically handle it yourself.
Or if you plan to continue living with your mother indefinitely and she is moving to a smaller place, you can decide now what you can keep that fits in the new space and donate/throw away the rest, saving yourself the work and expense of a storage unit.
If you co-own the house or are a co-signer on the lease of the current house, you could take over your mother's share of the payments and continue to live there. But if she has sold the house or canceled the lease because it was in her name, then those are your options, unless you want to find a new place by yourself in the next 13 days and move all your stuff with you.
Maybe there are different details but that's what I gather from what you wrote.
I'm sorry for all the stress and health issues. I wish well with your recuperation and continued effort to get disability.
And you need to hire a disability lawyer.....one who handles disability cases only. They normally work on a contingency basis, meaning you only pay them when YOU get paid. Lawyers have a much higher success rate of getting claims approved than laymen.
Your "stuff" doesn't matter as much as your safety does. Plan to move in with mom and downsize your belongings as much as possible. That sounds like your best bet.
Best of luck to you.
In the meantime, you go to Social Services ans apply for Supplimental income. This should include Medicaid for health. They may be able to help with housing.
Seems Mom is willing to have you move with her. So, store your stuff. Some places the first month is free. Maybe Mom can help you with the rent. Where is Mom moving to? Does she own her house, is it going up for sale? If so, would be better if someone stayed on the property. Vacant houses mean higher insurance rates. This will give you time to find options.