I can't afford $20 an hour, because they require about 20 hours a week. In all my searches, I've ended up with care coming out (while I'm at work) probably not the best scenario...and an appointment with a free lawyer consultation to see how to liquidate our assets. Alone, he makes about $23,000.00. with me, we make about $73,000.00 and I have a few assets in life insurance and retirement accounts. I don't want to use all we have to help his situation at the expense of hurting my own. I will not have the support he has as I age. I'm 17 years younger than him and we've been married 36 years. I'm frustrated and depressed as a caregiver...not really my forte. I'm tired as I work full time as a teacher, and am his main lifeline. So my concern is...am I even on the right path for finding help for him?