My mom just turned 82, and has been living by herself for the last 20 years. I have two brothers who want nothing to do with my mom. She has no friends, and doesn’t socialize with anyone. Growing up she wasn’t a very nice person. Narcissist tendencies. I am her only caregiver. She lost her only sister to pancreatic cancer 2 years ago. Since then I have noticed a complete change in her mentally. After she passed it was almost like she had a nervous breakdown. I went over to her house and she had everything unplugged, and said she couldn’t get the tv working. Eventually she snapped out of it and seemed stable, but I started noticing these past couple years strange things. Constant calls that the tv wasn’t working or the remote wasn’t working. She stopped being able to figure out how to work her DVD player. Every radio I would purchase, she said didn’t work. She just couldn’t figure out the buttons and how to operate them. She stopped cleaning out her cupboards, and I’d constantly find moldy bread or food. She stopped making shopping lists for me for the grocery store. I had to constantly guess what she needed. I had to start cooking and bringing homemade dinners for her to reheat. She went from over feeding her dog to forgetting to feed her. Sometimes she would forget to take meds but most of the time was still doing well with it. Constantly said the air conditioning or heat wasn’t working right when it was. Constantly said the toilets were broken when they weren’t. If she calls me and I don’t answer she will keep calling me nonstop until I answer. My mom lives 30 minutes from me, and I’m only able to see her 3-4x a week because of work. On August 25 she called my phone at 2am 3 times. I didn’t answer as my phone was on vibrate and I didn’t hear it. By voicemail number 3 she said she needed to talk to me ASAP and if I didn’t call her back she was calling the sheriff. A deputy called me at 7am saying my mom was very confused and that she said I stole her purse. After I asked him to check the cupboards( usually where she hides things) he found it under the kitchen sink. She had both tv remotes in it along with her glasses and hearing aid. He had her transported to the ER. When I saw her in the ER she told me she didn’t trust me and to get away from her. No infections, blood work perfect. ER doctor said dementia. I’ve known for awhile she’s had it, but she refuses to see a doctor and says nothing is wrong with her. She eventually snapped out of it and doesn’t remember anything other then the police showing up at her house. They couldn’t get her to see a geriatric psychiatrist anywhere for evaluation. They were full at 3 hospitals. So they transferred her to memory care at a nursing home 45 minutes from me. Social worker and dr said she shouldn’t be alone because of her memory issues. I discharged her from memory care and brought her to my house for a week, so I could transition her to an assisted living facility closer to me. That was a mistake. She didn’t sleep at all. She would open the bedroom door and yell all night how our place was a dump and the service was bad. She would slam her cane on the floor and just go off. During the day she was better mentally but when late afternoon would hit her moods would change. It was quite eerie and eye opening. She was delusional and hallucinating. Multiple times asking my husband to fire me as I was a horrible worker. She flat out didn’t know who I was at nighttime??? On day 7 I moved her to an assisted living facility 8 minutes from me. I’ve been saying over and over you have to stay here for awhile and can’t be alone. Today she called me yelling and screaming that I put her away and she wants her attorney etc etc. saying I don’t love her etc etc. That can’t be farther from the truth. I can’t get over the guilt and cry all the time. She can’t live with us I just can’t do it especially with my 11 year old son. I feel I did the right thing, but then why do I feel so guilty.