Hi Everyone - I could surely use some quick advice...I'm currently at my parent's house today - I came over earlier to try to help since my father wasn't feeling well. It's been a really stressful day - I intend to write a separate post at some point due to the struggles I've had from both parents regarding physical and emotional abuse they've caused me in very recent years - both of them are fully lucid and it's not dementia related at all - it's just who they are. I've tried to distance myself from them as a result, but I'll still help when they need something. It's a long story that I am still trying to understand and work through, but that's for a different post.
For now, there's an urgency that I'm dealing with regarding my father's behavior - he said that he had an upset stomach yesterday (it's not surprising since he said that he ate fried rice from an open buffet from a supermarket...followed by a chocolate donut...and he and my mother went to a Chinese restaurant that evening (not sure if MSG sometimes in the food could also have an effect). So, today, I get to their home and my father is agitated...seeing moving numbers in front of him...seeing things on the ceiling that aren't there...he wet the jeans he was wearing and didn't realize it (which never happened before)..he's blaming me for all this - telling me that I'm doing it to him - saying horrible hurtful things to me (which is his typical personality anyway)...he's slurring his words - if I ask him a question, he answers something referring to a different topic - it's scary and I tried to get him to Urgent Care and he threatened me not to call. I have an appt for him at his doctor's office first thing in the morning and the nurse that I spoke to thought possibly a UTI or bacterial infection - especially since the day prior, he was perfectly fine - he's still functional - usually does his finances, drives, very coherent and very active. Today it's all different. My mother has only added to the chaos today - she's a covert narcissist type.
So, my question is - does anyone know what this is - or sounds like - and if it is a UTI or bacterial infection, is there anything anyone can suggest that I can do to help him this evening - until he sees the doctor tomorrow? This day has been so bizarre and scary and after the prior suffering that he's caused me in my life, it's a very big mix of emotions for me.
Thank you so much for any suggestions you can offer ~
Words cannot express how much I Truly Appreciate all of you. It's been such a rough week and very little sleep from this week's ordeal, which is still ongoing. In fact, yesterday was the first night that I was able to get a nite's sleep from all of this in the past week and I'm completely exhausted and still trying to get back to feeling myself.
My father's doctor advised that I stay at my parent's house for the quarantine period as well - since I was in close range before my father was diagnosed with covid. So, I've been trying to help my parents during this time - and all I can say is if you think that my father's words were horrible in the feedback that I quoted him saying prior, it's magnified since then. It's hard to believe that a father could be as he is - I feel very broken from this, but it is what it is ...and I actually feel numb from it all.
I've been so tired and absorbed with work from my parents thru this time that I haven't had time to send replies and respond to your Very Kind feedback - which I'd very much like to do - I want to send my Gratitude to you all - and once I can muster up my energy again, hopefully in a day or two, I'll send feedback and an update.
Hoping you are all having a wonderful Sunday!
XOXO