My husband takes care of his father, in his father's home. I am not welcome there, per the father in law. My husband fights with him about it and never wins. My FIL has 12 illnesses all are fatal. To name a few, Diabetes, COPD, Congestive heart failure, renal issues, PAD, HIGH Blood pressure, hearing issues, falling all the time at least 5 times in a 24 hour period and falling has landed him in the hospital 2 times and a nursing home in which he walked out of. My husband cannot care for him properly because he works a full-time job and is tied to his father the rest of the time. Honestly, I'm ready to throw in the towel....3 years of this is enough. I don't know what else to do. I have talked to him til I was blue in the face, but his father appears to be his only concern because that's where he spends his time. I am honestly at a crossroads here. How has anyone on here coped with an absent spouse? MIA spouse? I love my husband very much but being alone most of the time and not allowed to go over to see him as his father hates my guts and everyone else's, makes this hard and possibly not worth the fight anymore. My husband knows it is time for a nursing home but his dad is fighting hom every step and they can't get reliable help in the house to care for him and he (FIL)doesn't want anyone there either....my husband is tired all the time from work and caring for his father. His health is starting to decline and I cannot get him to even hear me ...it's a mess.....at the end of my rope..Anyone?!