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A lot of you already know my background, but here's a quick summary for those who don't: Bill, my husband, has later stage Alzheimer's and I'm his full-time caregiver. Bill is 73 and retired, but only has his modest social security, so I still work full-time to support us. I'm 64 and have a high-stress job, but I'm blessed to be able to work from home on Tues and Thurs - and then I take Bill to an Alzheimer's day care on my way to the office on Mon-Wed-Fri and pick him up on my way home. He's incontinent, speaks very little, understands very little and needs help with just about everything now, but is still somewhat ambulatory.

So here's my question: He's forgotten almost everything and doesn't remember anything from one moment to the next, so how does he still remember some sexual things? He gropes me occasionally and will even try to masturbate on occasion when he's by himself (unsuccessfully, however, since he can't get an erection). I have a baby monitor in my home office so I can keep an eye on him when I’m working from home. I don't resist when he wants to touch me if it makes him happy. I just can't figure out why this one thing is still present in his brain. I know it's crazy, but it makes me wonder if he knows or understands more than it appears.

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i can clarify that. the remote control for a woman has about 20 different complicated buttons on it. the male remote only has two -- food and sex.
that is funny because its true. we have an insatiable drive but i think its a drive to be loved by our SO moreso than just physical relief.
im giving you males the benefit of doubt here, dont eff it up.. ( dullards )
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Thanks Captain - I appreciate a man's point of view. So you're saying that because it's so ingrained in the male psyce it's almost an involuntary action - or the need is so great, the desire doesn't go away - even if it's not a conscious desire?
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yup. im older now but there occasionally a sensation of virility, tingling, need for release, buildup? its purely physical so i was lying like a rug on valium about all that " need to be loved " drivel earlier.
its both, really. nothing we accomplish has much meaning without someone to share it with-- but wed trade all that for the right aerial view of a beautiful set of female vertibrae. there aint no right answer dammit. this was a setup and i walked right into it .
sigh. our loyalties are solely reliant on our current options.
screw this cooty platoon, im hungry..
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I was looking for answers to this issue. So glad a man gave his side of the story, also gave me some smiles this morning.
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I suppose that this think is simply very deeply in male brain. You know - sex,sex,sex. Most of males are really very sexual active. Instincts. Hope you will be strong enough and will find peace in your home.
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My good, kind husband died June 23, 2014 from Alzheimer's, so I'm very grateful I let him do whatever his 'urges' were. It was a small pleasure he could enjoy when everything else had been taken away. I miss him incredibly every, single day.
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