Mom has anxiety, agitation, urgency and now dementia. She has been making poor decisions, and has always been obsessive, compulsive, and even discontent. She is a good person, but difficult. Now with dementia she is about to sell her second home and buy a third. She always wears us down. She caused my dad to sell the home he loved. He is gone now, but yesterday she nearly had us convinced to give her car keys back. We didn't, but what is wrong with us? We are hostages to her illness. In her anger she can argue and articulate well, and cry. So how would you define first her behavior? And then ours? I am looking for some precise words or descriptions, medical or common, to help me process these thoughts and questions. We are legally close to having help and a solution to this problem. If we don't get help, we will continue to live this life of battling and managing her behavior. We cannot.