We only get along if we are talking about the weather. The second I even mention the smallest concern safety or otherwise I get shut down. Took me 6 months to get a handicap parking tag for my car. She wouldn't even consent when I explained it would help me to help her. Every appointment I had to park at the door, get her inside and go back out to park the car. She lives alone in not the safest environment. Only upstairs bed and bath. No dementia, but a weak, frail 90 pound body. Now we are battling over a medical alert necklace and in home help. All free with her Medicaid. I live 45 minutes away and am her only child in the area able or willing to help. I have been getting her groceries, running errands, and small household chores for the last year and 1/2. She hides and lies about all aliments untill she is in a crisis. She recently stayed with me for 9 weeks due to a foot ulcer that she hid. I gave her my 1st floor bed and bath, showered her 3 times a week, and fixed all nutritious meals.
She insisted to go back home, where there are only sink baths, a very limited diet due to being too exausted to fix full meals and an upstairs only bed and bath. She fell twice while at my house and thank God didn't break anything. I call her every day, nope she won't call me, nope she can't use up her minutes on phone card. Nor will she get a normal phone even if I pay. I am at my wits end and need to set up conversation boundaries for my own health. The stress is too much. If I tell her how I feel, she tells me it's my own fault how I feel and how she's been through much worse. Please help.