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My 89-year-old mother has advanced dementia. Long story short she has caregivers which I am very thankful for, but my sister is very harsh with them and always finds something complain about. The current caregiver cooks clean and takes care of our mother 10 hours a day. And she attacked so badly that the caregiver called in sick but admitted it was due to her actions. She goes out of her way to create drama for no reason. We recently were on a trip, which she was jealous of, and the day I got back announced she was leaving for 10 days. I live and work in another state and need advance warning to plan in case I need to be there. She just threw me under the bus. She resents that she’s a block from our mom, but I’d do anything to be able to pop in but instead rely on FaceTime and visits when I can. We wanted to sell my mom’s apt which we co own and move her near us, but my sister wouldn’t agree and now complains when it’s the caregivers who kill themselves for my mom. One of the caregivers stood up to her and she did everything she could to drive her off although she was so loyal to my mom. It never ends. But I heard that there is no reasoning with a narcissist.

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I’m so sorry that your sister behaves this way.

If your mom has advanced dementia why isn’t she in a memory care facility? Wouldn’t that be the best thing for your mom and everyone else concerned.

I don’t blame the caregivers for being annoyed with your sister’s behavior.

Best wishes to you and your family. Sell the apartment and place mom in a facility. Then visit her as often as you can.
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I think your sisters problem is more than being a Narcissist.

Co-own...meaning your sister is on the deed too? I hope u have POA for Mom. If so thats 2 votes for and one vote no. I think u can force the sale. Don't think u need sisters permission. Just sell it at Market rate in case Medicaid is ever needed. Give Sis her 3rd, if you want ur third ok, Moms third goes into a bank to be used for Moms care only. Keep all documentation for Medicaid if ever needed.
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