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My sister lived with mom for not quite a year, moved out and I found out that she punched holes in walls and doors and was yelling at mom throughout her time there. She moved out, and mom is taking her back in (because my sister at 51"claims" she can't afford to live on her own) with my sister's children, ages 18, 17 (who is a juvenile delinquent with anger issues) 13 and 10. It is a 5 room house. I just recently found out that there was a domestic disturbance report with my moms and 17 yr old nephew at her house a few months back. I know that she cannot keep living like this! I don't know what to do because she is upset with me because I told her she lied to protect my sister and her children (but she did, and there is proof). I'm worried for her....My sister refuses to talk to me and has even threatened me on various occasions...

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You have good reason to be worried. I would contact some of the authorities - APS, Social Services and your local Agency for Aging and tell them about the situation and ask for advice. APS may make a visit to assess if the situation is dangerous for or even suitable for your mother. It sounds like your sister has severe anger issues too. The house is obviously overcrowded with 6 people in 5 rooms. You could also ask the police to make wellness checks. Is there anyone outside of the family like a pastor or priest that your mother would listen to?

Another question is - is she still capable of living alone in her house or is it time to look at other alternatives? At 85 she is getting up there. Does she have any major health issues?

It is great your mother has you and I wish you success in intervening for her welfare. Others may have other ideas.
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She still is capable of living alone, her only health issues are blood pressure and cholesterol. I had the police do a wellness check a couple of times when she would not answer the phone. Turned out my sister and her children were there and didn't want to upset them by talking to me. The pastor somewhat gave up due to the whole situation. I've called dept of aging but my sister did not let my mother speak when they were there... It's a screwed up situation!!
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I'm in the same boat here...my mother has now removed me from her life and the role of her caregiver because the older sibling kept taking abusive rants and threats at her, so she did it so the sibling would stop...there is not much you can do, sounds like a sick dysfunctional situation
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Oh dear, that is worrying. APS -adult protective services may do a visit. Tell them that your sister would not let your mother speak to the agency for aging. It sounds like a very codependent relationship between your mother and sister. Since your mother is competent she can chose to live like this and it may be very difficult to intervene unless/until something worse happens. In that case you can only keep an eye on things and try to bring in resources if, for example, your mother becomes ill and doesn't get proper treatment.
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I am so sorry. I think it will come to a head eventually and need intervention, but not until things get worse. Read around the threads. Some others are going though similar. (((((((Hugs))))))
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Sounds like you are on top of things. You need to be in gathering info mode. I also have voice mails, emails, texts, copies of his upcoming destruction case (who knew you can find that on line...for free, at least here in mass.), basically the works. I am in the process of contacting civil rights as I believe her Hipaa rights were violated as her where abouts were just released. He found out where she is and begun visiting her as soon as he got out of jail (separate issue, but anger related) last week, agitating her, and asking for money.

It is a long ongoing battle. But kudos to you for stepping up to it. Push your elder services, once they get involved they can be unbelievably helpful.
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I received the police report and found out that it was the 3rd time they were called out there for domestic disturbance!! This one was between my nephew and my mom and mom was the one to call the police. Supposedly there was no physical violence, but it had to be bad for her to call ... Thank you for your ideas. I'm going to call elder services in my state and report what I found out and see what happens.
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One tiny silver lining is that your mom did take action by calling the police on nephew. So she knows who to call and isn't afraid to do it.
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I said it was a tiny silver lining. But I suspect it's because she worries about her daughter and grandchildren and as a mother somehow still feels responsible for the person her daughter has become. Mothers aren't always logical.
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You mention Dept of Aging several times, but you might actually need Adult Protective Services if the situation continues to escalate. And maybe a lawyer. You would have to tell them everything you have shared here, and present the evidence that mom is covering up and/or not being allowed to tell what is really going on. If mom is competent and chooses to live like this, maybe the best you can do is make sure she has ways to call for help, which she does at the moment. Maybe you can go through a third party and get a routine going where you have regular conversations or visits with mom to reassure you she is OK; it could be in your sister's interest to do that if it reduces tension and keeps you from feeling you have to make reports and call in outside parties. this is a difficult situation with no easy answer, and your mom is blessed to have someone trying to look out for her nevertheless.
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Contact your County's Juvenile Court and ask what their age limit is for jurisdiction. It might be that a 17 year old could still be subject to jurisdiction. You could also ask that question of the police.

If the JC has jurisdiction, you could anonymously refer the nephew to the Juvenile Court, as could the police. A caseworker would be assigned after the intake process, and it's even possible that he could be removed from the home and placed in something like we have in Michigan - Children's Village - until he reaches the age of majority, if he's determined to be a threat to your mother's welfare and safety.

Someone would have to pay charges for his "care" though, unless your mother is indigent. I don't recall how charges are paid under that circumstance.
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