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Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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One of the most common questions here, and one that has MANY helpful hints from those on this Forum. Go to the top timeline of Aging care, and just to the left of your Avatar, on the far right of the line, find the "magnifying glass". Pressing on this icon will take you to our search engine. Type in your question there and it will access the many times this question has appeared; Press on any one and read the many helpful suggestions, and wishing you good luck with one that will work for YOU.
Do know that at some point, as things progress to a senior battling against such simple things as hygiene and dressing, etc. it indicates that in home care one on one isn't sustainable any more. Often enough for safety there must be placement with several shifts and several people on each, and with special equipment to do assistive care.
Hoping you find a good answer. Remember, ask our search engine "How to get Senior to Shower". You will find literally 100s of responses.
My mom had dementia and was terrified of the shower. So I gave her sponge baths. No need to put them through something that is unbearable or difficult for them. No need to do the sponge bath every day either. And for the hair there was a dry shampoo.
I sponge bath my mother-in-law every day. I use dry shampoo for her long hair.
I ask her if she would like a shower and she will tell me yes or no.
Every evening I will ask her if she feels like getting a shower. I can wash her hair, put a deep conditioner in it, help her feel really good.... then she will say if she wants one or not.
Gently walk with her to the bathroom and have her sit on a bath seat. If the water spray is a problem, use a wet washcloth or sponge. Another way is to cleanse the skin with lotion.
You do not mention if mother has dementia. I will presume she does. Some people with dementia fear water - they may hallucinate and see things that are scary and/or feel like they may / are drowning.
Google "dementia and showering" and "why do dementia patients not want to shower? and see what comes up.
In the interim, do sponge baths in the bed or on a chair. Be sure the bed has a mattress protector.
Do not 'push' her if she is afraid. If it is depression or 'simple resistance, discuss with MD medication.
My aunt used to allow me to, but then she began being combative. Each time, she started screaming she's going to do it herself, or she just got through bathing herself and I know it's a lie because I'd smell her. She wouldn't let me.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Go to the top timeline of Aging care, and just to the left of your Avatar, on the far right of the line, find the "magnifying glass". Pressing on this icon will take you to our search engine. Type in your question there and it will access the many times this question has appeared; Press on any one and read the many helpful suggestions, and wishing you good luck with one that will work for YOU.
Do know that at some point, as things progress to a senior battling against such simple things as hygiene and dressing, etc. it indicates that in home care one on one isn't sustainable any more. Often enough for safety there must be placement with several shifts and several people on each, and with special equipment to do assistive care.
Hoping you find a good answer.
Remember, ask our search engine "How to get Senior to Shower". You will find literally 100s of responses.
I ask her if she would like a shower and she will tell me yes or no.
Every evening I will ask her if she feels like getting a shower. I can wash her hair, put a deep conditioner in it, help her feel really good.... then she will say if she wants one or not.
Some people with dementia fear water - they may hallucinate and see things that are scary and/or feel like they may / are drowning.
Google "dementia and showering" and "why do dementia patients not want to shower? and see what comes up.
In the interim, do sponge baths in the bed or on a chair.
Be sure the bed has a mattress protector.
Do not 'push' her if she is afraid.
If it is depression or 'simple resistance, discuss with MD medication.
Gana / Touch Matters
We had to bring someone in to do it.