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Help getting Medicaid or government grants so my mom 92 can stay at home? She lives alone and is low income.

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Ashley, You have asked several questions regarding assistance for your Mom. Check with your Area Agency on Aging to find out what assistance is available. They will do an assessment for what she might need. Contact your county Medicaid office with assistance for Medicaid. Resources for walk-in bath tubs is not readily available and Medicaid does not cover equipment that requires home modification for installation. That would be the home owners responsibility. Long term care covered by Medicaid might be the best solution for your mom.
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Your mom wants to live in her home but who is going to be her 24/7 caregiver? You can contact your local area's Council on Aging for resources, and then the county your mom lives in for an in-home assessment for services, but I don't believe the county will pay for everything for in-home care. Medicaid doesn't happen "asap", you need to fill out the form (which can be downloaded at the Dept of Health and Human Services website for her county. There will be a "lookback" period so if there was any use of her money in ways that the county doesn't like, she may not qualify, may be penalized and may be delayed in qualifying. The lookback period can be from 2.5 to 5 yrs depending on her state of residence. The approval process takes a minimum of 3 months. Whoever is her financial PoA will need to help her apply. FYI she probably doesn't want to go into a NH because she maybe has heard or seen bad ones in the past. Now there are many new and fine facilities. Good luck!
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rocketjcat Feb 2020
See his other posts... she gave other brother 68 thousand a few years ago.
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This situation sounds very difficult. People here will give you good advice. Hold on.
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You gotta condense all these questions down. Give more details in your posts. Use punctuation. I'm really having a hard time understanding what you are asking. Do you mean poa as in power of attorney, and make a typo? Or the abbreviation pos? Those are two very different things.
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It looks like most of the question ended up in the profile. It is hard to follow but here are some highlights:

They're in Connecticut.

Both sons have general poa severally or jointly poa state or not both

my brother asked my mom to take a equity mortgae out 2017 said he need money to pay his mort and got 100, thousand dollars a year after dad died now she has no equity left in her house and now wants her to reverse mort so he dont have to pay bal 68, thousand back to her i think hes going to use his poa to do this mom sais no he wants mom in nursing home mom wants to stay in her home i always protected her i need help she stays home but no equity in home cause of him and can't qualify for Medicaid.

mom's 92
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Oh man, she's going to have a horrible time getting Medicaid if she gifted a hundred grand 3 years ago.
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How does your brother think your mother will pay for a NH if there is no money and she can't qualify for Medicaid?

You're already the one who's taking care of your mother. The expectation will be that you continue to do so (and do even more) as she deteriorates. Does she need that much help that she needs a nursing home?

Sad to say, but plan for you and your wife to be the ones to be your mother's caregivers (possibly progressing to fulltime), UNLESS you decide now what's going to happen to prevent that. Everyone will expect it of you (your mother, your brother).
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Until that gift of $100k is more than 5 years in the past, she will not qualify for Medicaid.

sit down with this son and explain what he has done to her....now she must live with him and he must take care of her until at least that 5 year look back has passed.
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How did this happen? You worked in social services and did not report it? Call social services and the area agency on aging for advice and help. An elder law attorney would be a good idea as well.

And pack mom off to his house.
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Ashley I think you are going to need to make Mom a ward of the state if she needs Nursing Home care . That may mean calling APS and let them take guardianship if Mom is in really bad shape. You may need to do this because you are not going to be able to place Mom in a NH on your own without money or Medicaid. Let APS take over. (You don't have to be caregivers yourself if you are not physically or mentally able to as I've seen others state, APS will find a safe environment, but you won't have a say in the matter and possibly your brother will be investigated for financial abuse, but Mom will be taken care of)
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Unfortunately you are going to have to play hardball. No taking your mom into your house (unless you want to) and no contributing $$. She will have to be made a ward of state as that 100K is going to disqualify her for years. Good luck.
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gladimhere Feb 2020
For a nursing home she would be disqualified for the number of months until the 100k is paid another way, by cash, by someone else. In my area a nursing home starts at about 10k a month. So in ten months at that rate the 100k penalty would be done.
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It may be helpless, but do you think brother would attend a meeting with you with a social worker or eldercare attorney that would explain the problems mom will be facing because of gift.  Some people are uneducated and think if no taxable income, no Medicaid problem.
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How did she get a 100k loan being low income?

Your brother has violated the law, he benefited personally by using his POA to get mom this loan.

I would contact the local authorities and file a complaint against him, that is how your mom will get the care she requires.

You know about all of this, so you are now responsible for doing the right thing. Protecting your mom against your predatory brother and if he goes to jail, oh well, who essentially risks their 90 year old mom's house to get money for themselves?
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Was it a reverse mortgage?
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rocketjcat Feb 2020
He said it was an equity loan. I don’t know if anyone could even get a new reverse mtg on a house with an outstanding equity loan.
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If she freely gave the $100 thousand to your brother, he had to know she now doesnt have the funds for care. I would pack her and her belongings up and she would be living with her son! So not fair to you to put up with this crap. Stand up for yourself. Mom and brother need to figure this out since theyre the ones who made this mess!!
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FloridaDD Feb 2020
Many people do not understand how Medicaid works until too late.
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You all have to read her profile amd other responses. The mother re-mortgaged her house for 100k and gave the money to her son. He now whats her to do a reversed mortgage. Won't happen because the house has no equity because of the re-mortgaging. This is all son's fault.
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