My 91 year old mother has shown a steep decline recently. We had her memory doc run tests and they are observing her but can't give us any reasons (like a UTI). She is throwing away mail that she shouldn't - ie 1099's. She gets charity donations and throws away everything but the envelope. We have asked her to save all her mail and have us go through it with her. That worked for about a week. We have taken her off of many accounts but she still has a small checking account to give her some independence. Can I get her important papers sent to me instead (ie tax documents etc) and is there a way to control her mail and still have her feel some independence? I visit her about once a month (live several hours away) and have 3 sisters that also live about the same distance. I do all her financial paperwork (make sure taxes and bills are done and paid etc). All her bills are on autopay - but I need certain forms for taxes, etc. We have POA forms filled out and signed - is it time to pull the trigger? She has some dementia but not Alzheimer's.