My mother can barely walk and has been diagnosed with dementia. She believes the doctors are quacks and are wrong and me and my sister are also. She has become mean and very unpleasant to be around. We took her to a nice retirement community to see and she became even more angry and said she is not like those people. Her living conditions are very bad - an extremely filthy house, old food in the refrigerator and the list goes on. If we try to help she acts out with a fake cry and screams at us to get out of her house. We have tried to have conversations with her to see another doctor, consider in home help care, consider retirement living for better quality of life. But she becomes angry and tells us we are meddling in her business. As an example she had five packages of hotdogs in her refrigerator and bought another pack at the store. When we tried to clean the refrigerator we were told to leave the house and she began a fake cry with screaming out. We recently had a snowfall very light and she tried to shovel when the neighbors have already committed to doing this for her. She almost fell and told my sister she was in extreme pain from doing so. She is great at complaining on things but then acts out in this crazy way if anyone suggests any help. At a loss of where to go next. This is very sad for everyone and unsafe for my mother to continue living this way. Any advice is appreciated!