yep that is the way it is . my dad is 87 yrs old and he goes in his briefs alot . once in a great while he ll say i have to go pee and well by time we get to bathroom his brief is wet and plus he did pee in the toilet . dont get mad or upset cuz it does hurts thier feelings and its embarassment to them , just change it and put another brief on em and theyre happy camper all nice and dry . my dad always thank me when i change him , they cant help it theyre like a 2 yrs old , do it in diapers or do it in toliet , which ever way it goes , xoxo
This is the way it is. There is no insisting or demanding. If they are wearing diapers, they are going to pee in them. Hate to be the bearer of unwelcome news but you just change the diaper. It's a diaper. Your mother has Dementia, yes? then all bets are off and you will see stuff you'd rather not. It just is. sorry. Hang out with us on the Grossed out Thread because that's why we're grossed out! There's also a wealth of info there offered by seasoned caregivers. We vent and gripe because at the end of the day that's all you can do! Good luck and be good to yourself! lovbob
Sometimes Ruth wets her diaper, alot of times goes to the bathroom on her own. I do follow her into the bathroom to make sure she is not getting into something or not wiping good. I think sometimes she does not feel the pressure of needing to go. She will be 93 in a few months. Her new obsession is insisting we take the wet diapers, save them, and just dry them!!!!! So an argument every time there is a wet diaper change. Hope you find a solution that works for you.
It's "easier" for her, so she just does it. Most good nursing homes try to keep people out of pads as much as possible, and take them to the bathroom. But it's not unusual for the elder to grow tired of the trips to the bathroom, so many have to be encouraged along. You aren't alone, though this may not get easier. Carol
dont get mad or upset cuz it does hurts thier feelings and its embarassment to them , just change it and put another brief on em and theyre happy camper all nice and dry . my dad always thank me when i change him ,
they cant help it theyre like a 2 yrs old , do it in diapers or do it in toliet , which ever way it goes , xoxo
Your mother has Dementia, yes?
then all bets are off and you will see stuff you'd rather not.
It just is.
sorry.
Hang out with us on the Grossed out Thread because that's why we're grossed out! There's also a wealth of info there offered by seasoned caregivers.
We vent and gripe because at the end of the day that's all you can do!
Good luck and be good to yourself!
lovbob
Carol