At 97 my MIL is in independent/assisted living in her own apt. She scoots herself in her wheelchair to activities and meals, which she says keeps her there at a cost of $4000+ a month, self pay.
Her dementia has now caused her to lose, or forget to pay bills all together.
Husband and I are not able to pay her bills but would like to assist her in banking but she adamantly refuses and continues to get phone shut off, late fees and such.
Husband is power of attorney and doesn't want to "stir her up" but knows she needs help. I have tried to gently tell her I can come and help her organize, write out checks and let her sign and mail. It does not go over well.