If you feel your mom is not safe to be on her own, she may be beyond home care assistance. Do you feel she needs 24/7 help? If she’s a fall risk or suffering from dementia, she. may be safer in a facility.
Convincing someone, especially a woman, that they can no longer take care of their home and themselves, which they’ve been doing most of their lives, is not easy. You may need the help of her doctor to convince her.
It took 6 months and the help of a care manager to get my dad to understand why he needed some in home care. He would not listen to me. Took an outsider to do it. We started with 3 days a week for 1/2 days. He has gotten to like it so much (the extra attention, housekeeping, help with shopping, errands, doctor appointments) that we are up to 6 days a week for 1/2 days and I am pushing for making one of those days a full day. He is thinking about it. I would suggest baby steps even if it is only starting at 1-2 days a week.
Convincing someone, especially a woman, that they can no longer take care of their home and themselves, which they’ve been doing most of their lives, is not easy. You may need the help of her doctor to convince her.
When it comes to discussing support with her, how far have you got?