Double, LOL. You mean your employer doesn't charge you for desk space?!
So many families run into the issus of charging room and board even to a family member. Yup, this is my case, sibs that do nothing to help mother with resources don't want to pay me. Every proposal they have made includes deductions for room, board, utilities, gasoline and on and on. Sibs do not want their inheritance that is tagged for mom's care first. Brats!
A friend who just hired live-in care for her father is paying $200 per day. The person lives at the home 24 hours a day for 12 consecutive days, then has two days off. Having the same person at the home day and night has provided more consistency than having different people in and out all the time.
Just for reference, directly paying the caregiver 610 sterling for a week of care is equivalent to $1,024.80 US dollars. Paying the agency 810 sterling is $1,360.80, with the agency getting $604.80 and the caregiver $756.
I think some employers see "room and board" as partial payment for services and I disagree with that sentiment, unless the caregiver actually moves into the home making it their permanent residence. My employer doesn't charge me or reduce my wage for showing up at the office!
I am with radiator and assandache, I work 24/7, no real days off unless one of my sibs comes over for their once a month visit and NO pay. I wish that I would get enough balls to bill my sibs for my Mothers care. As it is I am using my social security to pay for a lot of her living expenses even though she has more than enough money in the bank (much more than I will ever have) because she is always crying "poor." That depression mentality stuff which I get really sick of since there are truly "poor" people in the world and my family is very lucky. Minimum should be $800 a week with 2 days off.
A&A, Hadenough, Radiator, me and there are many others out there that don't get paid. And parent has resources. Siblings are more concerned about inheritance left for them. That is what is occurring in my case in spite of siblings knowing parent would want to pay me. This is long, hard work. Siblings have always said that parent would want to pay me, but since it is interfering with their inheritance, thus their plans for retirement, it has become a matter for the courts. Sibs have even told others that they know Mom would want to pay me. They know Mom has always wanted to remain in her home, terrified of nursing home which is what it would be if I was not here. So, now siblings spend Mom's money to retain attorneys to argue what they know Mom would want. Make sense yet? Of course not!
I always ask those like Charles if he has provided 24/7 care for a parent. It is hard never ending work. Charles did you give up career, benefits, your own family to care for a parent. Until you and others like you walk a mile in our shoes you should not be judgmental!
Hello - There are several issues to consider here. First of all, if this woman cannot walk, does the person who normally cares for her do this alone? I ask because my mother cannot walk, and she has carers come in three times a day to get her up, washed, dressed, etc., toileted mid-day and back to bed in the evening. If this person genuinely cannot walk, then two people will be required for moving and handling issues. So the next question is does she have such carers and will this care plan remain in place when you live-in? I have no idea how much you should be paid according to any local laws but I can give you my experience of buying in live-in care for my mother who lives with me in London, UK. UK agencies which provide fully-approved (police checked) live-in carers for people such as myself who need a week's respite every now and then, charge approximately £100 for a 24 hour period, so for example, a 7-day holiday requiring the carer to move in the night before I go so I can do a proper hand-over, costs around £810, but the agency takes a big cut of this and the live-in carer only receives around £450 of this fee. I have used one particular agency and checked with the carer and this is common practice. Now, I by-pass the agency and hire the carer directly. I pay her a lot more than she would get by going through the agency, and less than I would pay the agency. We agree on a fee of £610. She is happy with this and I have discussed the amount with the other carers who come for regular daily personal care. This live-in carer basically becomes me for the week, so the other care plan stays in place. Obviously you will have to do the exchange from sterling to dollars. I think if you're offering a live-in service, you are responding to a definite need, and as someone who uses such a service I can tell you that I really appreciate the lady who comes to do that for me, and that before she comes we create a timetable of when she herself is going to be relieved. That's essential. Good luck.
By paying a relative to care for a parent, you are SAVING THAT PARENTS ESTATE tons of money. Negotiate from there. Get an estimate of local NH or Assisted living situations and compare to what they could save by paying you.
I pay my grand-daughter-in law $15 per hour for helping with my mother & cleaning her bath, changing bed linen and washing it for mother and mani-pedi. She is a CNA and makes that at her regular job. She only works about 8 hours per week though. I have an ex-sister-in law who is willing to stay Friday night to Sunday night for $250 and do some house work as well. That seems like a bargain to me. She would not be living in, rather coming just for weekends.
So many families run into the issus of charging room and board even to a family member. Yup, this is my case, sibs that do nothing to help mother with resources don't want to pay me. Every proposal they have made includes deductions for room, board, utilities, gasoline and on and on. Sibs do not want their inheritance that is tagged for mom's care first. Brats!
Just for reference, directly paying the caregiver 610 sterling for a week of care is equivalent to $1,024.80 US dollars. Paying the agency 810 sterling is $1,360.80, with the agency getting $604.80 and the caregiver $756.
I think some employers see "room and board" as partial payment for services and I disagree with that sentiment, unless the caregiver actually moves into the home making it their permanent residence. My employer doesn't charge me or reduce my wage for showing up at the office!
If the family is already shooting you in the foot, let them price nursing homes. The money is not theirs and probably won't be.
I always ask those like Charles if he has provided 24/7 care for a parent. It is hard never ending work. Charles did you give up career, benefits, your own family to care for a parent. Until you and others like you walk a mile in our shoes you should not be judgmental!
First of all, if this woman cannot walk, does the person who normally cares for her do this alone? I ask because my mother cannot walk, and she has carers come in three times a day to get her up, washed, dressed, etc., toileted mid-day and back to bed in the evening. If this person genuinely cannot walk, then two people will be required for moving and handling issues. So the next question is does she have such carers and will this care plan remain in place when you live-in?
I have no idea how much you should be paid according to any local laws but I can give you my experience of buying in live-in care for my mother who lives with me in London, UK. UK agencies which provide fully-approved (police checked) live-in carers for people such as myself who need a week's respite every now and then, charge approximately £100 for a 24 hour period, so for example, a 7-day holiday requiring the carer to move in the night before I go so I can do a proper hand-over, costs around £810, but the agency takes a big cut of this and the live-in carer only receives around £450 of this fee. I have used one particular agency and checked with the carer and this is common practice. Now, I by-pass the agency and hire the carer directly. I pay her a lot more than she would get by going through the agency, and less than I would pay the agency. We agree on a fee of £610. She is happy with this and I have discussed the amount with the other carers who come for regular daily personal care. This live-in carer basically becomes me for the week, so the other care plan stays in place. Obviously you will have to do the exchange from sterling to dollars. I think if you're offering a live-in service, you are responding to a definite need, and as someone who uses such a service I can tell you that I really appreciate the lady who comes to do that for me, and that before she comes we create a timetable of when she herself is going to be relieved. That's essential. Good luck.
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