How many people here caring for a LO expect that level of care from their own children someday?

Nover! My kids will get POA & we might move to the same town they live in if it comes to that - all this many years from now but never living in the same house and hands-on caregiving. We've saved for our retirement and will sell our house etc.

I'm hating caring for my mom like a child but we don't have a choice, If there was no virus, I'd have hired an p/t aide for my mom but we still worry about Omicron even tho' we are all vaccinated & boosted. Money is also an issue. I'm mentally always on for mom & I'd never inflict this on my children.

I have 4 daughters. All of them have let me know, in a kind way, that I am not to expect hands on care when I get 'there'...and so DH and I have planned accordingly. Of course I want to live independently, but we are right now in the process of moving to a LARGER home that can handle CG's living with us, if necessary. We won't even use the basement unless the gkids come over.

We never planned to have our kids care for us and luckily, saved and invested so that will not happen. We'll 'age out' in our home or move to an ALF.

Gosh, my kids didn't even help when I went through cancer. (I knew if I reached out to them, they would have come, but chose not to).

Every family is different and multigenerational living works beautifully for some families, it's a hot mess for others.

Absolutely not! It is not her responsibility. I hope she will visit often but no way do I want her to do that. It is my responsibility to make sure I have planned for long term care. I want her to live her life. I would hope that if I can’t manage my finances that she would take care of that end of things if I could not but not the hands on type of care that I’d actually prefer a trained person to do. However I don’t expect that either, it is a discussion to have before it gets to that point and we have talked about things like this.

No. My daughter is an RN working herself up from an LPN and she has already told me she is not toileting me, she did enough of that on the job. Because of my Mom I would not expect my girls to physically care for me. My DH and I have been able to invest some of our money. Hopefully it will be enough for us to care for ourselves. When I am 85 my girls will still be in their 50s. Both single at this point so need to work.