5 months ago I filed for guardianship of my dad who is both mentally and physically incapacitated from Parkinson's and Lewy Body dementia, and requires the highest level of 24/7 care, to stop my mom from moving him with her to a single bedroom apt in a memory care facility hundreds of miles away, (where her horrible family lives) she claims she could provide some of his care, against the advice of his Dr's and social workers, and, thankfully, the court visitor.
He has received excellent care in an excellent LTC facility for over 2 years, which is paid for by LTC insurance. My mom, who was his POA, (they are still married), lives in an independent living apartment 2 miles away from him, and is in a wheelchair. She has been declining mentally for the past year to the point that in order to stop her from moving him I filed for guardianship.
She objected to me being appointed as guardian, so the court visitor recommended a 3rd party professional guardian for dad, which is a godsend! The new guardian stopped the move and has protected my dad from my mom and is amazing!
My mom's behavior during her visits with my dad has caused his health to decline even more. Now my mom is claiming she didn't know what she was signing in her attorney's office, when she signed the papers agreeing to this new guardian, doesn't agree with the new guardian and wanted to file for a new guardianship in which SHE is appointed.
Her attorney withdrew from the case because he didn't agree that what she was doing is in my dad's best interests, so she found a new attorney, who is her friend, who has never handled even 1 guardianship case, and convinced him to file.
Of course me and my brothers objected, and we had to go to court over this. What should have been a 1 hour hearing was 6 hours! She and her new attorney turned it into a circus! I thought my brothers and I were on trial! She convinced people in her church that my brothers and I had lied and stolen from her, and even had people testify and say horrible things about us - and we had never even met them!
My attorney was stunned because none of what she and her attorney said and brought to court was relevant, but the kind judge wanted her to "have her say." She acted ridiculous in court. But now it's been over 5 weeks and the judge has still not made a decision. In the meantime, she thinks she WAS granted guardianship and continued in her plans to move my dad, which upsets him to the point he won't eat, drink or sleep, so his guardian had to restrict her visits. She is also not speaking to any of her children despite our repeated attempts.
My dad's guardian wants to try to get appointed as my mom's guardian, since she's doing other irrational things, but since she still has the capacity to take care of herself, etc. it most likely won't happen any time soon.
Is there a way to "nudge the judge" just to find out why it's taking so long? My attorney says it's still listed as "Under Advisement" and we just have to wait. I'm glad my dad is safely under the care of the 3rd party guardian, but my mom is wreaking havoc in the meantime!
And now my dad gets to pay for the hearing: 4 attorneys, the guardian's time, the court visitor's time, and the 6 hours of court time, which will likely drain a huge chunk of their small savings, thanks to my mom!
Thanks for your reply.