I am a caregiver for both of my parents who still live in their own home. My mom had a stroke last year that affected her memory. She has gotten worse and I know it’s time to get her into a nursing home it’s the hardest thing for me to do. My parents both can’t get around very well and my mom is now lashing out at my dad and accusing him of sleeping with other women in the neighborhood, mind you he is 91 and can barely go to the bathroom. They have been married for 69 years and it makes me sad to see what is happening. I have a brother who lives here and will help if I ask but doesn’t see things like I do. My sister lives 7 hrs away and doesn’t come home very often. I worry about my parents 24/7 and I’m getting frustrated and resentful. It’s not fair to my husband that I come home from there and am always crying. I feel like I have no outlet and feel so guilty. I hate when people tell me how lucky I am to still have both my parents but I think, am I? This is not my parents anymore. They rarely get out and do nothing but sleep or watch tv all day. They both are hard of hearing and with my mom being so mean to my dad she won’t eat anything he gets her and she doesn’t take her medication unless my brother or I make sure she takes it. She is also diabetic and she doesn’t regulate that like she should. I try to go over there every day but sometimes I just can’t handle it. She has a nurse come once a week and I’m going there in the morning while she is there to talk to my mom about the next step and I’m dreading more than I can say but I know it can’t go on this way. Sorry to go on and on but I know some of you might be able to relate. I just think she won’t understand what we are saying and meaning as she is in a fog most of the time. It would be so much easier if she would say I agree it’s best for me to be somewhere where I can be on a schedule. But to be honest I think she will just give up in a nursing home.