How do you place an alcoholic Dad with dementia in a care home if they want him to stop drinking and he won't?

Oh and hugs i know this is hard!

Totallyu agree with irishlass! his addiction is not your problem! and something will happen or not maybe just let him at it i too cannot see him stopping drinking at this stage of his life? look after you and whatever happens will happen he may fall or have a stroke OR fall asleep and never wake up? we never know? but you try and let it go as it will make you ill! my mums not a drinker but has diabetes and dementia and refuses to help herself so ive had to let her at it as the stress she put me through last year caused me to have a mini-stroke but im fine now because ive let go and try not to let her get to me as i cant help her she has to help herself and at their age they just dont care anymore and want to live their lives as they please so maybe its better to let them?

I think Janny is wondering how to get her dad into a facility because he has dementia but he's also an active alcoholic.

Alcoholism is a topic that's been covered here many times and there are many people here who have dealt with this situation to some degree or another. I'm sure you'll get many thoughtful and helpful responses.

Your dad has 2 hurdles to overcome. The first being giving up drinking. It's not as easy as it sounds and your dad will need medical supervision if he does quit. The second is getting him into a skilled care facility. Call me a cynic but I don't see anyone at the age of 85 and who's an alcoholic giving up the drinking so they can move into a nursing home.

You may just have to wait this one out and know that at some point you will get a call from someone telling you that your dad fell or has had a stroke. Once in the hospital he can dry out and be transferred from the hospital to a facility.

Always remember that it's not within your power to get your dad to stop drinking. He won't stop unless he wants to and you can't make him want to. It's nothing personal, it's just the addiction. It's bigger than both of you.

If he's in a nursing home, where's he going to get alcohol?